Grief and self: listener question

So powerful and clear explanations are coming from your videos of the THEM course.Thank you very much for all your wisdom you're sharing with us.Listening to Day 28 the words struck me where you're explaining how relationships can be held when we don't need anything from the other person, especially words: ''They don't even have to stay alive''.A question came up: '' What would grieving look and feel from this sane place?''Remembering my grieving over loss of a close friends and later after loss of my father due to cancer. It was a lot about me and not so much about them really. It was more about how their death will affect me, what will I be lacking after they're gone etc.Would love to hear your thoughts on that :)