The Loss You Don’t Realise You’re Grieving | Ray Warner

Send us Fan MailGrief does not only follow the death of somebody we love.It can also follow the loss of a job, income, relationship, routine, freedom or the future we believed we were building.When that loss remains unrecognised, we can feel stuck, exhausted and unable to make decisions without understanding why.In this archive episode, Peter Boolkah speaks with Ray Warner, who at the time described his work as life-after-loss coaching.Ray shares the deeply personal experience of losing his first wife suddenly when he was 22, only one month after she had given birth to their daughter. He discusses how that loss affected his life and why people frequently avoid conversations about death, vulnerability and grief.Peter and Ray explore:Why grief can follow many different forms of lossHow people can become trapped in a psychological “waiting room”Why we may grieve the future we expected to experienceHow prolonged uncertainty can affect entrepreneurs and decision-makingSigns that somebody may be struggling after a lossWhy recognising what has changed is an important first stepThe value of talking to somebody who can offer an outside perspectiveHow a new vision can help people begin moving forwardWhy meaningful support should be appropriate to the individual’s needsThis conversation was recorded in January 2022 and contains extensive references to the pandemic. Its broader message remains relevant: loss can affect people in ways they do not immediately recognise, and asking for appropriate support is not a weakness.IMPORTANT WELLBEING NOTEThis episode shares personal experience and general coaching perspectives. It is not medical advice, and coaching is not a substitute for assessment or treatment from a suitably qualified healthcare or mental-health professional.Treatment for grief, depression and other mental-health concerns depends on the individual. Do not begin, stop or change medication based on this conversation.If grief, anxiety or low mood is affecting your life, speak with your GP or a qualified mental-health professional.UK information and support:https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/feelings-symptoms-behaviours/feelings-and-symptoms/grief-bereavement-loss/CONNECT WITH PETER BOOLKAHWebsite: https://www.boolkah.comLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/boolkahInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/pboolkah/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BoolkahX: https://twitter.com/boolkahABOUT PETER BOOLKAHPeter Boolkah is a business coach, author and speaker who has spent more than 20 years helping business owners build stronger, more valuable businesses that do not depend on them for everything.He is the creator of The Hamster Wheel Trap® and author of Your Business Sucks: Build a Business That Works Without Destroying Your Life.Peter works with founders and leadership teams on the issues that ultimately determine whether a business creates freedom or becomes another job: leadership, founder dependency, people, profit, execution, scaling, exit readiness and enterprise value.His approach is direct, practical and built around one simple question:Do you own the business, or does the business own you?Learn more at https://www.boolkah.com