“Grow Up, Josh!”

"Grow up, Josh. You're being an asshole and I won't have it." Amy actually said that — and privately, she was afraid she'd married a monster. She hadn't. But it took years, a Hold Me Tight® workshop, and couples counseling to figure out what was really going on. In this episode, we tell the whole story: Josh growing up as a missionary kid who absorbed the message that he was unimportant, unlovable, and last on the list — and how that old wound showed up in our marriage wearing a disguise. It didn't look like hurt. It looked like anger, jealousy, and ultimatums. And it landed squarely on Amy's own raw spot: the fear of being abandoned. We replay our worst pattern in slow motion — the trigger, the protest, the counterattack, the round-and-round — and share the moment we finally saw that the cycle was the enemy, not each other. If you've ever looked at your partner mid-fight and thought "who ARE you?", this one's for you. You'll learn what a raw spot is, why anger is often a question in disguise, and how to spot the cycle running your own relationship — because you can't fight an enemy you can't see. Grab Amy's free guide: The Cycle Running Your Relationship and How to See It Clearly → amypie2.gumroad.com Show Notes 💛 Free guide: The Cycle Running Your Relationship and How to See It Clearly — spot your cycle, your raw spots, and your protest moves: amypie2.gumroad.com 📓 Ready to go deeper? Stuck in the Same Fight? A Couples Cycle-Mapping Guide ($3.99) and the Tell Me More conversation card deck ($8.99) are also on Gumroad: amypie2.gumroad.com 🏕️ Hold Me Tight® couples workshops with Amy & Josh at HoneyDo Acres in Bellingham, WA — September and November dates open now. Details at amyprieb.com 🌿 Learn more about couples therapy, individual therapy, and EFT intensives with Amy: amyprieb.com 🎙️ Love the show? Follow, rate, and share it with a couple who needs to hear it. Amy Prieb, LMFT, is an Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) specialist practicing in Bellingham, Washington.