（光棍节特别篇）当你约某人并被遭到拒绝时，该如何应对？

What is a response for when you asksomeone out and get rejected?AndreiCimbru, Behaviors debugger, engineer, writer in training.www.ruleyourway.comLearn this and learn it fast. There is no such thing as arejection.Don’t believe me?I’m gonna assume you’re a guy forthe sake of the examples. Let’s say you see an attractive woman. You go up toher and say Hi! and she rejects you after 5 seconds.Did she reject the real “you”? Imean think about it. Did she have enough data points to analyse if you arepotentially worthy of bearing her future children or not? At a subconsciouslevel this is what attraction basically is: “doeshe or she have the right genes (physical, mental, behavioural) to produceoffsprings with strong characteristics that can carry the legacy further?”That’s why usually men fall forlooks and women for charisma. “Doesthis person have something of value that can add to my genes already”?Of course all of this happens atan emotional level based on the cues we give off.She might have rejected youbecause:·       Youseemed needy and unconfident·       Yousaid something weird and uncomfortable·       Youwere too awkward or too pushy·       Shejust had a bad day·       Shejust came out of a relationship·       Sheis too preoccupied with her professional lifeYou see whatever the reason is,she didn’t reject you. She rejected the approach on her. Even if she is yourcoworker that you’ve known for years, she rejected only a side of you that sheknows. How could she know who you truly are? She only knows the cues you’ve beenprojecting.Erase the romantic bullshit thatmainstream media has brainwashed you with. When someone you are attracted torejects you, they are actually doing you a favour. Chasing someone who doesn’twant you back is not romantic, it’s masochism. It’s our ego that tells us thatwe are not enough, that we are not worthy and that we need to prove theopposite. You don’t need to prove anything to anyone.There is no such thing as arejection. There are only reference experiences. You reinforce the positiveones and you learn from the negative ones. Both of them take you one stepcloser to finding that person that actually wants to be with you for who youreally are.The moment you say “Hi!” is themoment you start conquering your love life.