Guarding the Fire | The Unsafe Wound Stole Your Warmth

This one belongs to everyone. Every single person listening is carrying some version of the unsafe wound. The only difference is when it formed and how long it’s been running the show.It doesn’t only happen in childhood. It happens any time something — a relationship, a loss, a betrayal, a season of life where the ground shifted without warning — teaches your nervous system that safety is not guaranteed. And once it learns that, it stays on. All the way on. Scanning, anticipating, bracing. Even when there’s nothing to brace for.Especially then.Today we name it, we drop it, and we spend the rest of the episode on the part nobody talks about — who you were before the guard went up. The part of you that sat by the fire and just expected to be warm. That wanted company without doing a threat assessment first. That let good things be good without immediately calculating when they’d end.That part of you is still in there. Exhausted from guarding the fire alone. Ready for someone safe to come sit down and stay a while.The drawbridge doesn’t have to come all the way down today. It just has to come down a little.Be Real, Not Nice | Unlocking The Paradigm Portal with Sarah​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​