Guest Episode - Stop Saying Let Me Know If You Need Help

Episode 4: On a Tuesday evening in April, Tomi Fanilola got a FaceTime call that changed everything. Her healthy, vibrant mother, her best friend, her prayer warrior, had just suffered sudden cardiac arrest. She was 59 years old.In this raw conversation, Tomi shares what no one tells you about sudden loss. Why "let me know if you need help" is the laziest response. What actually helps when someone is drowning in grief. And why she'll talk about her mom for the rest of her life, whether people are comfortable with it or not.If you've ever wondered what to actually DO (not say) when someone experiences loss, or if you're grieving right now and need permission to do it your own way, this is for you.IN THIS EPISODE:The reality of sudden loss: operating in shock while still having to functionWhy "let me know if you need help" doesn't work, and what doesWhat grief actually reveals about the people in your lifeThe worst things people say to someone who's grievingWhy you can't "trigger" someone who's already thinking about their loved one 24/7The conversations about legacy and end-of-life planning we avoid (but shouldn't)How to own your grief journey without letting others dictate your timelineLiving intentionally with the people who matter, while you still canABOUT TOMI FANILOLA:Tomi Fanilola is a vibrant speaker, Wellness Coach, and MC with over 15 years in the beauty industry. She's a wife, mother, mentor, and self-described student of life who walks and preaches "God-fidence", showing up as your most authentic self and living a well-rounded life beyond the average.SHIFTED ON PURPOSE MOVE OF THE WEEK:Check in on someone who's grieving, without asking permission.Don't text "let me know if you need anything." Instead:Text: "Thinking of you today. No need to respond."Order groceries or send a fruit basketDrop off a mealJust show upSomeone who's drowning doesn't have the capacity to ask you to save them.TAKE ACTION:Have the conversation. Talk to your parents about legacy and how they want to be honored.Show up differently. Stop saying "let me know" and start doing something.Share this episode with someone who needs permission to grieve their own way.SUBSCRIBE & CONNECT:📧 Get your FREE Future Readiness Check: www.shiftedonpurpose.comFollow Shifted on Purpose: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Spotify | Apple PodcastsIt's not about what you leave behind. It's about what you pass forward.