Harnessing Stress for Real Estate Success With Dr. Chloe Carmichael

In this week's episode, we are joined by Dr. Chloe Carmichael. Chloe Carmichael Ph.D. is a licensed clinical psychologist and author of Nervous Energy: Harness the Power of Your Anxiety. Today she is going to share with us four out of the nine anxiety tools she detailed in her new book to help successful people harness nervous energy. This Includes creating mental shortlists, emotion-based to-do lists, scripting anchoring statements, and scheduling worry time. Even before the pandemic started, many real estate agents were struggling with major stress. Thinking about a property they've had their eyes on, being in the process of a property rehab, and taking care of their family all at the same time! Dr. Chloe will show us simple ways to adjust and thrive through inevitable life changes, especially during these uncertain times and answer your questions to help you cope with stress or anxiety. So sit back, relax, and listen here for this mini therapy-session-like Q&A with Dr. Chloe!   In This Episode:  [ 03:36 ] Our guest, Dr. Chloe Carmichael's introduction. [ 08:06 ] Create mental short lists of five good, productive thoughts for when we are stuck obsessing and overthinking a thought that is no longer productive. [ 13:36 ] Are you doing everything on your to-do list, but you're feeling no connection to doing it? Or are you starting to procrastinate on your to-do list? Chloe recommends creating an emotion-based to do list to understand the different emotions you feel around a certain task. [ 20:44 ] Trina, from the audience, volunteered to share the item in her to-do list that's keeping her stuck around a VA who's working for her in her business. [ 22:32 ] Dr. Chloe gives Trina recommendations for her problem. [ 29:16 ] Nicole's input on Trina's situation [ 37:06 ] Scripting anchoring statements. Creating a statement that is so simple and straightforward that in times of panic or anxiousness, you are able to pull yourself back into rational thinking. [ 42:46 ] Thought replacements Dr. Chloe feels can help people in a variety of situations. [ 45:08 ] Making time in your schedule to worry instead of allowing those worrying thoughts to plague you constantly throughout the day.  [ 56:46 ] How can you press through stress brought on by lack of confidence? [ 1:01:05 ] How much time should someone spend self-actualizing? [ 1:02:11 ] Can self care action, which is designed to help you cope, actually become a crutch or addictive?    Takeaways:  Write down a mental shortlist of good things to think about to shift your mind from what you're currently fixated on that is giving you anxiety. Review your to-do list and identify the emotion that comes up when you're thinking about that certain to-do list item you have been procrastinating. Writing anchoring statements; creating a simple statement that we know is going to reactivate our ability to rationalize our thoughts. The zone of control is a technique where you can keep your focus on the thoughts that are in your control.  Studies have shown that affirmations can make us feel less secure when we're in a situation where we don't feel confident if the affirmation is too over the top. Links: https://www.drchloe.com/emotions/ - Dr. Chloe's Emotional Vocabulary Simulator http://nervousenergybook.com/ - Dr. Chloe's Book, Nervous Energy: Harness the Power of Your Anxiety http://usphjobs.com/ - Dr. Chloe's Source for VAs https://www.instagram.com/drchloe_/ - Instagram   Guest Bio: Graduated Summa Cum Laude, Phi Beta Kappa from Columbia University. Dr. Chloe Carmichael holds a doctorate in Clinical Psychology from Long Island University. Her private practice focuses on stress management, relationship issues, self-esteem, and coaching. She is the author of Nervous Energy: Harness the Power of  Your Anxiety (St Martin's Press, 2021); the book was endorsed by Deepak Chopra.   Connect with Better Than Success (Note - this section can be links we always include in the show notes)   Learn more about Better Than Success Real Estate League at Betterthansuccess.com/btsrel   Sign up to attend our Real Estate Q&A live at betterthansuccess.com/events   Get Access to our FREE Real Estate Beginners Class at betterthansuccess.com/freecourse www.betterthansuccess.com/realestatejournal - Need help better understanding your real estate area? Download my FREE Real Estate Journal