EPISODE · Aug 18, 2026 · 56 MIN
Have We All Benched Someone? Dating, Backup Boys and the Grass-Is-Greener Trap EP 785
from Talk About Gay Sex TAGSPODCAST · host Stephen V.Rodriguez
When does being genuinely unsure about someone become stringing him along? Are we avoiding rejection—or simply avoiding an uncomfortable conversation? Why do we sometimes want someone more the minute they start pulling away? Can you have a roster of casual guys without actually benching anybody? Have dating apps conditioned us to constantly look for the next best thing? Is being slowly benched actually worse than being ghosted? And when you finally know someone isn't right for you, do you owe him the truth? It’s funny, revealing and occasionally uncomfortable as Steve, Jeremy and Kodi admit that when it comes to dating badly, most of us probably aren't completely innocent. Because sometimes the problem isn't the guy who put us on the bench. Sometimes we're the coach. Hot Topic: New Bathhouse in Birmingham, YUMBO offers both bar for LGBTQ plus upstairs bathhouse... Hot Topic: 'The 5-Minute Crush' - a online speed dating platform... Hot Topic: Boy George and now Geno Segers Spark are the latest to be fired from upcoming theater due to their controversial statements.... Advice: Is it weird that I don't get hard at a naked pool party when the guests become handsy? Follow Steve V's new Substack features weekly articles: https://substack.com/@thenakedtruthsteve Follow Stevie on IG: @iam_stevev Follow Jeremy on IG: @jrosslopez Follow Kodi on IG: @mistahmaurice Rate and Review us! Wanna drop a weekly or one time tip to TAGSPODCAST - Show your love for the show and support TAGS! Visit our website: tagspodcast.com Needs some advice for a sex or relationship conundrum? Ask TAGS! DM US ON IG or https://www.talkaboutgaysex.com/contact Follow Of a Certain Age on IG: @ofacertainagepod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
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We’ve all heard about ghosting, breadcrumbing and situationships—but what about benching? This week, Steve V., Jeremy and Kodi take on the dating trend where someone keeps another person interested without ever fully committing or letting them go. But instead of simply calling out bad behavior, the guys turn the question back on themselves: Haven’t we all done some version of this? Maybe you knew a guy wasn’t quite right for you but kept seeing him anyway. Maybe you didn’t want to hurt his feelings. Maybe the sex was good. Maybe you liked the attention. Or maybe you were secretly wondering if someone hotter, better—or simply more—was still out there. The conversation gets personal as the guys explore being on both sides of the bench, the temptation to keep our options open, conflict avoidance, dating-app culture and our constant belief that the grass might be greener with the next guy.
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