He Jumped Off This Bridge. Now He Walks Over It Every Day.

DeeDee jumped off Southampton's Itchen Bridge and survived. In this episode he opens up about that night, getting sober, and how movement gave him a reason to keep going. This is an honest conversation about men's mental health, suicide, recovery and finding purpose. ⚠️ Content warning: this episode includes discussion of suicide, a suicide attempt, self-harm and addiction. Please take care while watching. You are not alone, and free confidential support is listed at the bottom of this description. 🔴 STRONGER THAN THE SILENCE We're taking on a full Ironman this August for CALM, raising money for men's mental health. Every pound helps, please donate here: https://www.justgiving.com/page/stronger-than-the-silence After two near-fatal incidents and years of using alcohol as a mask, DeeDee got sober and rebuilt his life with purpose. He founded The Big Movement to get men moving and talking for their mental health, he talks people down from the same bridge he jumped from, and this year he ran a marathon over it. We talk about rock bottom, sobriety, loneliness, bullying, self-worth and the small daily habits that brought him back. It's raw, it's hopeful, and it's exactly why we make this show. If you're a man sitting in silence, or you love someone who is, this one is for you. GUEST: DeeDee Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dannydcrook/ 🎙️ Hosted by Nick & Grant. Nick: https://www.instagram.com/getfitbynick Grant: https://www.instagram.com/coach_grantmcdonald/ 📲 Follow us: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/performwellpodcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@performwellpodcast YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@getfitbynick   SUPPORT (UK, free and confidential) Samaritans: call 116 123, any time, day or night CALM: call 0800 58 58 58, 5pm to midnight, or webchat at thecalmzone.net Shout: text SHOUT to 85258 In an emergency, call 999 CHAPTERS   00:00 Why we're raising for CALM this year 00:55 His first ever half marathon (and the sub 2 hour finish) 02:16 The Big Movement: getting men moving for their mental health 03:48 Why "movement" really means dance (and why men resist it) 06:10 The clap game: how ten strangers connect in a room 08:03 The dancer who said "I'm not depressed any more" 09:36 Lifting, boxing and the anger you have to release 11:17 Running a marathon over the bridge he nearly died on 13:09 What rock bottom actually looked like 15:53 Two bridges, a coma, and the drinking underneath it all 19:19 Getting sober: 18 months, 0% beer and beating the triggers 23:08 "It was a rebirth": finding purpose on the other side 24:22 Why he talks strangers down from the bridge 27:48 How bullying follows you into adulthood 32:34 The mirror exercise that changed everything 34:05 Gratitude, journaling and the books that helped 35:13 Why he goes back to that bridge every single day 38:02 The next marathon, and why the suffering is the point 40:50 What does it actually mean to perform well? 43:28 Where to find DeeDee and The Big Movement   #MensMentalHealth #MentalHealthAwareness #StrongerThanTheSilence #ItGetsBetter #PerformWell