He wanted complete control - Trans Widow Una-Jane Winfield talks to Kelly episode artwork

EPISODE · Jul 30, 2025 · 1H 12M

He wanted complete control - Trans Widow Una-Jane Winfield talks to Kelly

from Kelly Oliver Dougall · host Kelly Oliver Dougall

Send us a textFind Una's website here - https://www.transwidows.com/index.php/transwidows/The Daily Mail recently ran this story - https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-14897421/I-overjoyed-marry-handsome-love-life-Paul-22-years-dropped-bombshell-shattered-family-living-double-life-trans-woman-named-Elizabeth-happened-next.htmlKeywordstrans widow, emotional manipulation, autogynephilia, divorce, mental health, gender identity, narcissism, family dynamics, gaslighting, societal issuesTakeawaysUna shares her experience as a trans widow.Paul's gradual changes were difficult to notice at first.Autogynephilia is linked to narcissistic behavior.The impact of withdrawal on family dynamics is profound.Financial manipulation was a significant issue during the divorce.Gaslighting was a common tactic used by Paul.The emotional toll on children is often overlooked.The inquest into Paul's death raised many questions.Mental health issues are often misunderstood in society.Support networks are crucial for those in similar situations.SummaryIn this conversation, Una shares her harrowing experience as a trans widow, detailing the gradual changes in her husband Paul, his eventual transition, and the emotional and financial turmoil that ensued. She discusses the complexities of gaslighting, the impact on their children, and the societal implications of gender identity. Through her story, Una emphasizes the importance of support networks for those facing similar challenges and calls for a deeper understanding of mental health issues related to gender identity.TitlesNavigating Life as a Trans WidowThe Hidden Struggles of a Trans WidowSound bites"He wanted complete control.""This is the most appalling shock.""I wanted to pull him back."Chapters00:00 Introduction to Una's Story01:41 The Gradual Change in Paul05:02 Understanding Autogynephilia and Narcissism08:13 Financial Manipulations and Control11:00 The Discovery of Paul's Secret Life14:25 The Shock of Paul's Revelation17:24 The Impact of Paul's Behavior on Relationships20:29 The Police Encounter and Wrongful Conviction34:43 The Investigation Dilemma39:06 Finding Support and Community43:39 Legislative Concerns and Gender Recognition Act48:28 The Impact of Medical Interventions54:42 Navigating Family Dynamics01:00:32 Advice for Others in Similar Situations01:12:20 May 2025 YouTube Intro m.mp4Be My Guest - Do you have an experience that you would like to share on my YouTube channel? Book now - https://kellyoliverdougall.co.uk/be-my-guest/Work with me - If you have an experience that you would like some help with, I am a counsellor and I would love to support you. You can book a free no obligation consultation here - kellyoliverdougall.co.uk/counsellingSupport the show

Send us a textFind Una's website here - https://www.transwidows.com/index.php/transwidows/The Daily Mail recently ran this story - https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-14897421/I-overjoyed-marry-handsome-love-life-Paul-22-years-dropped-bombshell-shattered-family-living-double-life-trans-woman-named-Elizabeth-happened-next.htmlKeywordstrans widow, emotional manipulation, autogynephilia, divorce, mental health, gender identity, narcissism, family dynamics, gaslighting, societal issuesTakeawaysUna shares her experience as a trans widow.Paul's gradual changes were difficult to notice at first.Autogynephilia is linked to narcissistic behavior.The impact of withdrawal on family dynamics is profound.Financial manipulation was a significant issue during the divorce.Gaslighting was a common tactic used by Paul.The emotional toll on children is often overlooked.The inquest into Paul's death raised many questions.Mental health issues are often misunderstood in society.Support networks are crucial for those in similar situations.SummaryIn this conversation, Una shares her harrowing experience as a trans widow, detailing the gradual changes in her husband Paul, his eventual transition, and the emotional and financial turmoil that ensued. She discusses the complexities of gaslighting, the impact on their children, and the societal implications of gender identity. Through her story, Una emphasizes the importance of support networks for those facing similar challenges and calls for a deeper understanding of mental health issues related to gender identity.TitlesNavigating Life as a Trans WidowThe Hidden Struggles of a Trans WidowSound bites"He wanted complete control.""This is the most appalling shock.""I wanted to pull him back."Chapters00:00 Introduction to Una's Story01:41 The Gradual Change in Paul05:02 Understanding Autogynephilia and Narcissism08:13 Financial Manipulations and Control11:00 The Discovery of Paul's Secret Life14:25 The Shock of Paul's Revelation17:24 The Impact of Paul's Behavior on Relationships20:29 The Police Encounter and Wrongful Conviction34:43 The Investigation Dilemma39:06 Finding Support and Community43:39 Legislative Concerns and Gender Recognition Act48:28 The Impact of Medical Interventions54:42 Navigating Family Dynamics01:00:32 Advice for Others in Similar Situations01:12:20 May 2025 YouTube Intro m.mp4Be My Guest - Do you have an experience that you would like to share on my YouTube channel? Book now - https://kellyoliverdougall.co.uk/be-my-guest/Work with me - If you have an experience that you would like some help with, I am a counsellor and I would love to support you. You can book a free no obligation consultation here - kellyoliverdougall.co.uk/counsellingSupport the show

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