Healing Limerence EP: 56

🎙️ Watch the full episode and access exclusive bonus content on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/2dudestalkintherapy In this episode of Two Dudes Talkin’ Therapy, psychologists Dr. Jacob Ambrose (Dr. Jay) and Dr. Vincent Barbieri (Dr. V) explore the psychology of limerence, its connection to childhood emotional neglect and ADHD, and why we can become obsessed with people who are emotionally unavailable or unattainable. Why does limerence feel so addictive? Why can imagining a relationship sometimes feel more exciting than actually being in one? And why do people with ADHD sometimes experience such intense romantic fixation? Together, Dr. Jay and Dr. V discuss how unmet emotional needs, idealization, hyperfocus, and the anticipation of intimacy can contribute to limerence. Through relatable metaphors involving water in a desert, steak, and even a bag of Oreos, they explain why the fantasy of love can sometimes become more compelling than genuine connection. Most importantly, they explore how understanding these patterns can become the first step toward healing limerence and developing healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Chapters: 00:00 Intro: What Is Limerence? 03:22 Childhood Emotional Neglect & Limerence 04:26 The Water in the Desert Analogy07:23 ADHD and Limerence 08:46 Concept vs. Reality: The Steak Metaphor 10:33 Why Limerence Feels Safe 11:53 Don Draper: A Case Study in Limerence 13:21 What a Real Relationship Looks Like 14:58 The Oreo Prop: Dopamine & Anticipation 17:26 The Dark Side of Limerence 18:53 Parasocial Relationships as Limerence 21:14 Healing Begins About the Hosts Dr. Jacob Ambrose (Dr. Jay) and Dr. Vincent Barbieri (Dr. V) are psychologists and co-hosts of Two Dudes Talkin’ Therapy, a podcast exploring ADHD, trauma, attachment, relationships, and the psychology behind human behavior. DISCLAIMER: This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional psychological or medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The discussion reflects clinical perspectives and psychological concepts; not all proposed connections between limerence, ADHD, and childhood trauma are established causal relationships. Please consult a qualified mental health professional for individualized guidance. #Limerence #ADHD #ChildhoodEmotionalNeglect #AttachmentStyles #Relationships #Psychology #TwoDudesTalkinTherapy