Healing the Unloveability Wound: Navigating Chronic Illness in Relationship [13]

What happens when your body flares up… and so does your deepest fear of being unlovable? In this raw and vulnerable episode, I share about navigating a Crohn’s flare, emotional eating, sobriety, and the resurfacing of my childhood “unloveability wound.” Joined by my partner Fēnix Grace, we explore how chronic illness impacts intimacy, why your body is your primary partner, and how resistance to healing can keep you stuck. If you’ve ever felt like a burden in relationships, struggled with shame around your health, or used food to cope with emotional pain — this episode is for you.We cover:The link between chronic illness and shameEmotional eating as a trauma responseWhy healing is nonlinearHow attunement to your body deepens intimacyReleasing resistance in shadow workReparenting your inner childLINKSVisit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠consciousrelating.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Upcoming Events⁠⁠⁠: consciousrelating.org/events⁠⁠⁠Couple's Coaching⁠⁠⁠: consciousrelating.org/coaching⁠⁠⁠Join the Newsletter⁠⁠⁠: subscribepage.io/consciousrelatingCHAPTERS00:00 – Why I’m Recording While in a Flare Sharing vulnerably instead of waiting to “be better.” 02:30 – Growing Up with Crohn’s Disease Chronic illness, domestic violence, and early shame. 06:45 – Feeling Like a Burden in Love The unloveability wound resurfaces in partnership. 11:40 – The Ego of “I’m Healed” Why healing isn’t linear (and why that’s humbling). 16:40 – Addiction, Sobriety & Emotional Eating Food as a coping mechanism and nervous system regulation.19:45 – Your Body Is Your Primary Partner How self-attunement affects intimacy and consent.23:30 – Communication Breakdowns & Somatic Awareness Why many couples struggle to name what they feel.28:00 – Reparenting the Inner Child Why emotional eating began — and how to shift it.30:05 – Resistance to Healing The emotional block keeping physical healing stuck.32:15 – Letting Go & Ego Death Surrender, humility, and deep spiritual growth.Outro – Shame Withers in the Light Why speaking your shame is medicine.Music Creditshttps://uppbeat.io/t/paul-yudin/dreamstateLicense code: YTLHO7DQH73KDCKChttps://uppbeat.io/t/jeff-kaale/new-chapterLicense code: 8U4D1JARWUZ8WEYO