Healing Your Nervous System: Nervous System Regulation & Self-Compassion - With Special guest Lucy Fry

163 | Healing Your Nervous System: Nervous System Regulation & Self-Compassion - With Special guest Lucy Fry | Salarah Kacey StarreIn this episode of The Salarah K Starre Podcast, I’m joined by Lucy Fry, an integrative transpersonal psychotherapist, published author and couples counsellor, for a very real and down-to-earth conversation about the nervous system, healing and what it actually means to begin creating safety within ourselves.Lucy and I both came to nervous system work through our own lived experiences, and throughout this conversation we explore what dysregulation can look and feel like in everyday life, particularly when stress, hypervigilance, anxiety or constantly being “on” have become so familiar that we no longer recognise them as anything unusual.We talk about why the body can continue responding to situations through the lens of old experiences even when our conscious mind knows we are safe, and how learning to listen to those responses with curiosity and compassion can completely change our relationship with ourselves.We also explore self-compassion, shame, the inner child, co-regulation, repetitive patterns and the importance of allowing ourselves to be seen and heard rather than continually trying to fix, suppress or talk ourselves out of what we feel.One of my favourite parts of this conversation is our discussion around the seemingly insignificant micro-moments of everyday life. Rushing our lunch, filling every spare moment, taking our phones everywhere, moving from one task immediately into another or struggling to allow ourselves genuine rest can all give us clues about what is happening within our nervous system.Sometimes creating greater regulation isn’t about adding another healing practice to our list. It’s about creating more spaciousness, listening to the body and beginning to respond differently in those ordinary moments that make up our lives.We also speak about the reality that healing takes time. There isn’t necessarily one retreat, therapy session, spiritual practice or breakthrough that suddenly changes everything. Often transformation is created through years of small choices, greater awareness and repeatedly choosing to meet ourselves differently.This is a beautiful conversation about nervous system regulation, emotional healing, self-compassion, childhood patterns and learning to become a safer place for ourselves.I hope you enjoy it as much as we enjoyed recording it.Connect with Lucy FryWebsite: www.lucyfry.co.ukInstagram: @lucyfry_therapist_authorConnect with meWebsite: www.salarahstarre.comInstagram: @salarahkstarreIf this episode speaks to you, please share it with somebody who you feel may need to hear it. Sometimes one conversation, heard at exactly the right time, can become another small step in somebody’s healing journey.Love Salarah xxCopyright 2026 Salarah Kacey StarreThe Salarah Kacey Starre Podcast website