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EPISODE · Feb 26, 2026 · 33 MIN

Hear Here: Learning to Truly Listen

from Life Stories Podcast · host Shara Goswick

In this powerful and honest conversation, communication coach and author Arnie Buss shares how his own marriage nearly ended in divorce before one life-changing class transformed everything. After decades of repeating the same unresolved arguments, Arnie discovered that the problem wasn’t a lack of love. It was a lack of effective communication skills.Arnie explains how learning to truly listen by what he calls “tracking” helped him move from trying to be right to becoming curious about his wife’s perspective. That shift not only restored peace in their relationship but led to a renewed marriage that is now approaching 45 years.You’ll learn:Why “never make anyone wrong” changes everythingThe difference between hearing words and hearing the messageWhy feelings are always true—even when beliefs may not beHow childhood patterns show up in adult conflictWhy communication skills often fail when emotions are highA simple way to express your needs without creating defensivenessArnie also shares how these skills have helped reconcile estranged family members and save struggling marriages.If you’ve ever felt stuck in the same argument on repeat, this episode will give you practical, hopeful tools to begin again.Enjoy this free resource from Arnie: https://aware-heart.mykajabi.com/download-stop-arguingYou can find out more about Arnie's work at arniebuss.com

In this powerful and honest conversation, communication coach and author Arnie Buss shares how his own marriage nearly ended in divorce before one life-changing class transformed everything. After decades of repeating the same unresolved arguments, Arnie discovered that the problem wasn’t a lack of love. It was a lack of effective communication skills.Arnie explains how learning to truly listen by what he calls “tracking” helped him move from trying to be right to becoming curious about his wife’s perspective. That shift not only restored peace in their relationship but led to a renewed marriage that is now approaching 45 years.You’ll learn:Why “never make anyone wrong” changes everythingThe difference between hearing words and hearing the messageWhy feelings are always true—even when beliefs may not beHow childhood patterns show up in adult conflictWhy communication skills often fail when emotions are highA simple way to express your needs without creating defensivenessArnie also shares how these skills have helped reconcile estranged family members and save struggling marriages.If you’ve ever felt stuck in the same argument on repeat, this episode will give you practical, hopeful tools to begin again.Enjoy this free resource from Arnie: https://aware-heart.mykajabi.com/download-stop-arguingYou can find out more about Arnie's work at arniebuss.com

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