Hello Heffa, Goodbye

Episode 179 of the Audacious Confidence with Dr. Deena podcast, hosted by Dr. Deena, The Catalyst, titled "Hello Heffa, Goodbye" was published on November 14, 2020 and runs 32 minutes.

November 14, 2020 ·32m · Audacious Confidence with Dr. Deena

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Summary

You cannot rise above the image you have for yourself. Your image is controlled by a mental blueprint we have inside our subconscious mind, and it dictates WHERE we think we belong. I call my subconscious voice “Heffa”, do you have a name for yours? The Heffa has saved me from making a few horrible decision, like not going on a 2nd date with the creep who wanted to date my breast not me. But she has also interfered with me pursuing my dreams; She whispers things like “ WHO do you think you are?” “ARE you sure you can do that by yourself?” oh, the best one yet is “Remember the last time you tried that and failed.” She doesn’t stop. She is always talking to me so I had learned to TALK BACK to HER. What I did was make the unconscious conscious and fight HEFFA on my territory; the conscious now. Have I always done things right — NO — will I spend the rest of my life ruminating about things I cannot change - NO - Can I script a new narrative aligned to WHO I AM NOW — absolutely! Owning your I AM story is the key to creating a positive self- image. We are all on the same journey although we may take different paths. I have some questions Where are you now? Think about what is working for you and what isn’t .. what is pleasing, what is frustrating .. different areas of your life .. where can you grow .. where are you doing well .. are you doing your best .. what’s your biggest challenge right now .. what’s your biggest asset right now? Think about all the reasons for your successes and failures. Where are you stuck .. why are you stuck? Where did you win .. why did you win? Where are you stagnating .. why are you stagnating? Where you happy .. why are you happy? Where are you hurting .. why are you hurting? Where do you have hope .. why do you have hope? Where do you feel hopeless .. why do you feel hopeless? This season of Walking Through Glass is all about quieting the inner critic “heffa” that stops you from living your best life. If you want to quiet those negative voices and remove your limited beliefs you have to have some tough conversations with yourself. Those conversations are going to take courage and confidence. Don’t worry, I got your back. This season is all about building confidence, maintaining courage even in tough situations, and owning your I AM story. I would like to leave you with a golden nugget to help you finish 2020 strong. Spend some time learning WHO YOU REALLY ARE and unlearn who “they” told you to be or what your circumstances and situations made you believe about yourself. Make the unconscious conscious by having a real conversation with your fears, question your emotions, and interview your feelings. Find time to get quiet this week and love on yourself. Write down ONE thing today that you love about YOU … the real you. I believe in you and challenge you to HOLD YOUR IMAGE. Download my free ebook Imposter Syndrome: What it Is and How to Overcome it at https://bit.ly/ImposterSyndromeeBook2020

Episode Description

The Heffa has saved me from making a few horrible decision, like not going on a 2nd date with the creep who wanted to date my breast not me. But she has also interfered with me pursuing my dreams; She whispers things like “ WHO do you think you are?” “ARE you sure you can do that by yourself?” oh, the best one yet is “Remember the last time you tried that and failed.” She doesn’t stop. She is always talking to me so I had learned to TALK BACK to HER. What I did was make the unconscious conscious and fight HEFFA on my territory; the conscious now.

Have I always done things right — NO — will I spend the rest of my life ruminating about things I cannot change - NO - Can I script a new narrative aligned to WHO I AM NOW — absolutely!

Owning your I AM story is the key to creating a positive self- image.

We are all on the same journey although we may take different paths. I have some questions Where are you now? Think about what is working for you and what isn’t .. what is pleasing, what is frustrating .. different areas of your life .. where can you grow .. where are you doing well .. are you doing your best .. what’s your biggest challenge right now .. what’s your biggest asset right now?

Think about all the reasons for your successes and failures. Where are you stuck .. why are you stuck? Where did you win .. why did you win? Where are you stagnating .. why are you stagnating? Where you happy .. why are you happy? Where are you hurting .. why are you hurting? Where do you have hope .. why do you have hope? Where do you feel hopeless .. why do you feel hopeless?

This season of Walking Through Glass is all about quieting the inner critic “heffa” that stops you from living your best life. If you want to quiet those negative voices and remove your limited beliefs you have to have some tough conversations with yourself. Those conversations are going to take courage and confidence. Don’t worry, I got your back. This season is all about building confidence, maintaining courage even in tough situations, and owning your I AM story.

I would like to leave you with a golden nugget to help you finish 2020 strong. Spend some time learning WHO YOU REALLY ARE and unlearn who “they” told you to be or what your circumstances and situations made you believe about yourself. Make the unconscious conscious by having a real conversation with your fears, question your emotions, and interview your feelings. Find time to get quiet this week and love on yourself. Write down ONE thing today that you love about YOU … the real you. I believe in you and challenge you to HOLD YOUR IMAGE.

Download my free ebook Imposter Syndrome: What it Is and How to Overcome it at https://bit.ly/ImposterSyndromeeBook2020