Hiding in Shame or Upholding in Trust: Are You Keeping a Secret or Maintaining a Confidence?

Are you keeping a secret or maintaining a confidence? Explore 4 sets of questions to help you to determine whether you are colluding in shame or upholding in trust.#1 - Does it directly involve me? Does it impact my ability to tell my story & receive the support I need?#2 - Does it compromise me? Am I somehow complicit in wrongdoing or at odds with a duty?#3 - Is it gray or clear? Can I articulate what is to be held in confidence & why? Can I identify who is & is not privy? Or are the "rules" vague & unspoken?#4 - Do I feel shame or healthy pride? Is it a burden or an honor to hold this?One of the most valuable & loving things we can do is protect what is shared with us in trusting confidence. And one of the most damaging things we can do is help hide shameful secrets. Make it your practice to ask yourself whether you are keeping a detrimental secret or maintaining a healthy confidence.