High School DOs and DON’Ts & Islamic Celebrations | Wellness With Social Work Consultant Mohamed Ali Mahmood III

Season 1 | Episode 23 | Show Notes & Transcript Episode Title: High School DOs and DON’Ts & Islamic Celebrations | Wellness With Social Work Consultant Mohamed Ali Mahmood IIIMusic Copyright and Attribution “On My Way” by Kevin MacLeod. This work is licensed under Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 International License. https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/deed.en_US“Inspiration” by Ethan Tay. February 20, 2021 (Sydney, Australia). This work is an original contribution by the artist for the ASK Trio About Wellness podcast.“Pro Wellness” by Ethan Tay. March 9th, 2021 (Sydney, Australia). This work is an original contribution by the artist for the ASK Trio About Wellness podcast.“Summer Rain and Thunder in New York” by Syazana B. Mohamed Sani. August 2021 (New York, U.S.A.). This work is an original contribution by the founder for ASK Trio About Wellness podcast.“Summer Birds in New York” by Syazana B. Mohamed Sani. August 2021 (New York, U.S.A.). 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S.) ASK Trio About Wellness podcast is a production of ASKtrioWello LLC (New York). DisclaimerThe information provided in the ASK Trio About Wellness podcast is for educational purposes only. You should consult your doctor, specialist or physical trainer for advice on your physical wellness goals before you plan to follow any of the suggestions or recommendations in this podcast. All Rights Reserved ©ASKtrioWello LLC 2021.* * * TRANSCRIPTHello! Holã! Marhaba! WELCOME to the ASK Trio About Wellness podcast! Join me, Syazana Sani and the Astro Duo, Azfar Azman and Azimah Azman, your hosts from New York. Let’s strive to educate, regenerate and elevate family institutions through optimal productivity and wellness education, one episode at a time. ARE YOU READY to listen to inspirational stories of trust, respect, acceptance, integrity, love and social responsibility from multicultural families and special needs communities? Sit back, relax and be inspired by the awesome people that we highlight in the first segment of the podcast…SEGMENT I | High School DOs and DON’Ts & Islamic Celebrations[Azfar] Welcome back to the ASK Trio About Wellness podcast! This episode is co-sponsored by Hardi Kamsani and my dad, Azman Repin. Thank you and may God bless you.   [Azimah] Hello! May peace be upon you![Syazana] Hey! We’re back from part two of our summer break! You’re listening to the twenty-third episode of the first season of the podcast with me, Syazana, and the Astro Duo: Azfar and Azimah. If you’ve been waiting for this episode, we truly apologize for the delay in the publication as we needed to synchronize our efforts with our volunteers who were on a well deserved summer vacation. We’re advocating for family wellness in this podcast so we must certainly walk the talk! In segment one of Episode 22, we talked about love, trust and celebrated Azfar’s achievement in completing high school. Azfar had also shared some DOs and DON’Ts of high school life. We also talked about the significance of the first ten (10) days of Dhul Hijjah for Muslims around the world before celebrating Eid al-Adha.  This week, we’re happy to highlight more DOs and DON’Ts of high school life as we have a kind contribution from Nabil Azhari, a student from Troy High School who has received multiple scholarships. Now, Azimah: What is the question for Nabil? [Azimah] Okay, Nabil: What are some DOs and DON’Ts of high school life?[Nabil] Hi! My name is Nabil Azhari. I’ve just graduated from Troy High School. If I’m giving tips to new students entering high school, I think it’s first important to know that everybody is different because some tips might work out for certain types of people. Other tips might apply to everybody. But here are just three (3) DOs and DON’Ts that just really are what I thought worked for me:DOsTip #1: Experiment with your interest because what I liked before I might not like now.I might find it difficult now but it’s also good to just broaden your amount of knowledge. They say “Jack of all trades is master of none.” But really it just helps out with your adaptability because that’s one of the major points of being human is how easily you can adapt to new situations. If your profession is only one section, then you’ll only be good at that section. You won’t be able to adapt to a new situation if it were to come up.Tip #2: Find good friendsMy parents say “Find good friends because friends can support you or they can harm you.” Maybe some friends might have a bad influence on you, they take you away from your studies, they don’t support you in your studies, they distract you from your work.  Tip #3: Stick by your good friendsThere are friends that do support you with emotional support, understand the importance of what your grades might be to you and maybe help you out in classes if you’re struggling. So it’s important to find good friends and to stick by them.DON’TsTip #1: Don’t push yourselfSay there’s AP class. Let’s say for $50 or something and you wanna get to college. Well, say you take the AP class, you weren’t prepared for this, you know you’re not ready for it but you’re still trying to push yourself, you get hurt, you failed the tests so that’s $50 that you’ll use and you also still have to pay $5,000 for the college.Tip #2: Don’t lose motivationMotivation is what keeps people going for pretty much anything. Even if it’s the easiest class, if it’s simple. But if you don’t have the motivation to solve anything, you’ll just feel so empathetic about it. In future, you’ll probably easily forget about it because you’re not motivated to keep going. So, pick whatever classes that you’re motivated to learn(ing). Tip #3: Don’t think negativelyIt’s okay that maybe once in a while you might get a bad grade on a test. It’s okay! But to grief over that, to mourn over that? You’re complaining about all the bad things that might have happened to you: that’s not gonna do anything. They say “learn from your mistakes” but it’s also important: don’t focus too much on your mistakes. Maybe mistakes is just that—something wrong happened: you’re elapsing your judgement, your memory every once in a while. You might get a 50 on a test. That’s fine! Don’t think too much. If you can support that with better grades on the future tests, then maybe that 50 that might appear on your average for like for a week or two, it’s probably gonna go all the way up to 80s, 90s it’s fine. As long as you can improve after you’ve made a mistake, then everything is going to be fine. Those are all the tips that worked for me when I was in high school.[Azimah] Bravo! Thank you for sharing your wonderful tips! Marvelous! Marvelous![Syazana] Thank you so much, Nabil and also Nabil’s mom and dad, sister Azizan and brother Azhari, our Malaysian friends who have lived in the United States for over 25 years! They have shown much love and kindness to many families here. I’m proud to mention them because they are also our family mentor ever since we moved to New York in 2015. [Azimah] May Allah (God) reward your family. Ameen.[Syazana] Muslims celebrated Eid al-Adha last month on July 20th. Azimah: Let’s do a quick summary of what we Muslims did on the day of Eid al-Adha and what we did to celebrate the new Islamic year in the month of Muharram recently. [Azimah] On Eid Al-Adha, we went to the masjid or mosque at Al-Hidaya Center to do a special morning salah (prayer) and recited the Takbeer to glorify Allah, the Almighty God. After that, we had breakfast twice! The first breakfast was at sister Zahia’s house in Watervliet. We ate Algerian pancakes, some muffins, coffee and tea. [Syazana] Where did we go next? [Azimah] Oh yeah! We went to sacrifice a goat at a family farm owned by a friendly Afghan family in Troy. We had our second breakfast and ate lots of traditional and western bakery goods, salad and fruits. [Syazana] And where else did we go after that? [Azimah] We went home to change our clothes and perform our Dhuhr salah (afternoon prayer), then joined the Eid gathering at a Club House in Clifton Park with the rest of our Singaporean, Malaysian and Indonesian friends. We enjoyed a feast of Malay-Indonesian dishes and desserts. Some of our friends went swimming too. [Syazana] How about Muharram and the Islamic New Year, Azimah? [Azimah] We celebrated Muharram with more fasting, attending special online programs plus giving charity to the poor and needy. [Syazana] That’s it for segment one today.  [Azimah, Syazana] So stay tuned to the next episode and listen to stories of trust, respect, acceptance, integrity, love and social responsibility in the summer season! ~End of Segment I~ Coming up next…In the second segment of the podcast, we’ll learn about productivity and the nine dimensions of wellness—physical, emotional, environmental, spiritual, social, intellectual, mental, occupational and financial wellness—so we can survive and thrive in this unpredictable world. Segment II | Wellness With Social Work Consultant Mohamed Ali Mahmood III Bumpy Teen Rides: Winning Ways To Deal With Disappointments in Life II [Azimah] Now, it’s time to welcome our special guest, brother Mohamed Ali…Welcome back to the show, Brother Ali. [Brother Ali] Thank you. [Azimah] Do you have more tips for teens this week? [Syazana] Hold on! Before Brother Ali share the second tip, do you remember Tip #1 that brother Ali shared in Episode 22?Change your Negative Self-Talk into Positive Self-Talk. [Azimah] Yup! [Azfar] Yeah. Me too. [Syazana] Brother Ali also talked about doing introspection using the 3 Ts. [Brother Ali] Remember the 3 Ts:  Time. Think. Tasks.  [Syazana] Oh yes! Most people know how to do reflection but many might not know how to do introspection. Brother Ali: Can you help explain the difference between introspection and reflection? [Brother Ali] Yeah!Introspection: You look within. It’s deeper. Reflection: Sometimes you think about things outside. It’s not deep thinking, it’s really talking about how the experience is affecting you but introspection is about what's within you. What is it that needs to change. You look at yourself as a person and what are the things that you can do to actually make things better for yourself and for others. It’s a deeper form of reflection.  [Syazana] Dealing with disappointments by self-talk alone might not be enough because we still need to move forward and do something with our “failed attempts or efforts”. What can teens do after changing that negative self-talk to positive self-talk? [Azimah] So, what is Tip #2, Brother Ali? Tip #2 | Focus On Your Strengths and Look Out For Opportunities That’s my second tip!Look at your STRENGTHS.All of us have strengths. Sometimes we are too preoccupied with our failures that we are not able to see our own strengths. OR, worse, we cannot accept others’ view of our strengths -  we deny them, we think ourselves unworthy of others’ good observations of us.For example, a student might have difficulties understanding mathematical concepts, but could be very good in Science, languages and many other subjects. But, if the student just focuses on his/her weakness, then, all the strengths get pushed aside or become invisible to the student.When we focus on STRENGTHS, we can also look for OPPORTUNITIES from our failures. For example, having failed the test or exam, it could open up opportunities to improve yourself — perhaps in reviewing your study habits, or maybe reviewing the amount of time playing games or watching TV, or even managing your time.And, when we talk about STRENGTHS, we also acknowledge that the environment we interact with has strengths as well. Hence, to look for resources and support that could help us overcome these challenges. Are there people out there that could help? How could parents be of help to you? Are there friends who could tutor or even be a study partner? Focus on your strengths. [Syazana] Excellent tip, Brother Ali. If you are a teenager or even an adult trying to cope with disappointments in life, we hope that you’ll find the second tip that Brother Ali shared practical and useful.That’s it for segment two this week. In the next episode, we’ll continue to strive to achieve wellness with Brother Ali as he’ll be offering tips to cope with rejections in life. [Azimah] Stay tuned to the next episode. Bye! ~ End of Segment II ~ * * *We’ve now come to the end of the show today. If you have enjoyed our show, like us on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter @asktriowello a-s-k-t-r-i-o-w-e-l-l-o. 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