Hot vs Cool: Why Self-Control Isn’t About Willpower

Self-control isn’t about being weak or strong—it’s about having the right skills. In this video, I explain why some people feel overwhelmed by emotions and others feel stuck in overthinking. You’ll also get a free worksheet to discover your own patterns and learn how to build the skills that bring more balance and ease into your life.Dr Tony Weston is an award-winning BACP Senior Accredited Counsellor, Psychotherapist & Clinical Supervisor; Executive Coach, and Organisational Consultant.Books by Dr Tony Weston“Transform Your Life: The Ultimate Guide to Self Mastery: The Lifelong Capacities Map for Thriving, Healing, and Human Development”Available on Amazon (Hard Cover, Soft Cover, Kindle Edition):https://amzn.eu/d/eDeLeUd“I’ve Been Triggered: A Guide to Understanding and Managing Triggered States”Download the Kindle Edition:https://amzn.to/426rIC5Schedule an appointment:To schedule an Executive Coaching or Psychotherapy session with Dr Tony Weston:https://calendly.com/drtonyweston/new-meetingContact: [email protected] your free worksheet at: https://drtonyweston.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/The-New-Psychology-of-Self-Control-Beyond-Willpower.docxFollow Dr. Tony Weston:• Website: https://drtonyweston.com• YouTube: https://youtube.com/@DrTonyWeston• TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@dr.tony.weston• Instagram: https://instagram.com/drtonyweston• LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/dr-tony-weston-556375340“Please note: All content on this channel, including videos and materials, is protected by copyright and owned by Dr. Tony Weston. Unauthorised downloading, copying, or reproduction is prohibited. Thank you for respecting intellectual property rights.This resource is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, and is not a substitute for medical, psychiatric, or psychological care. The Lifelong Capacities Map® and Psychevita® are protected trademarks of Dr Tony Weston. You’re encouraged to explore and share these ideas in your own growth journey—but if you’d like to use them in professional services, courses, or business materials, please reach out for permission at DrTonyWeston.com.”#SelfControl #Willpower #MentalHealth #PersonalGrowth #EmotionalBalance #StressManagement #SelfMastery #MindsetShift #Psychotherapy #TonyWeston