How Can I Prevent Relapse?

Dr. Rob and Tami discuss some of the most common questions about relapse, including triggers, timing, and mental health considerations. They also address questions about fairness in affairs, the role of grief in recovery and healing, and when it's time to stop worrying about your partner and start loving yourself. TAKEAWAYS: [:30] My partner started dating after our divorce, and now we are back together. Was she cheating? [8:15] Resources for couples who don't know how to move beyond the pain. [11:10] Useful tools for those facing relapse. [13:20] Handling the triggers that are associated with relapse and entitlement. [18:24] If I am constantly objectifying or moving into fantasy about someone else, does that mean I'm slipping? [24:17] Learning to function in reality is the work of recovery. [26:24] Create a plan when you find yourself headed back toward acting out. [30:28] The four most dangerous words for an addict – "I can handle it." [30:50] Am I stuck in victim mode like my spouse says I am? [37:00] Empathy and compassion is central to recovery. When that is lacking there is a great chance that the addicted partner is relapsing. [38:50] My husband has been plotting his back-ups, including with my sister. Where do I go from here? [42:25] My husband is attracted to my female therapist. What should I do about it? [48:05] My partner had an eight-year affair. Does he love her more than me? RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: [email protected] Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions. QUOTES "What your wife did while you were divorced is not your problem. Your problem is how can we have clarity and new commitments moving forward." "Relapse doesn't just happen at the moment that the action happen. It happens when you gave yourself permission along the way." "It's much easier to make the right decisions when you have a plan." "Learning to live in reality is the work of recovery." "The four most dangerous words for an addict – 'I can handle it'."