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EPISODE · Jun 14, 2026 · 1H 7M

How Divine Masculinity Unlocks Better Sex and Deeper Love

from This Tantric Life with Layla Martin

Shownotes    How spiritual growth can translate directly into better sex The #1 thing every man should do when he wakes up in the morning Why sports pressure was easier for Brenden than being in conflict with his partner A simple daily practice that can change everything for men How to bring out the best in a man as a woman Why you need to be whole in yourself to experience true masculinity and femininity   Bio Brenden Durell is a breathwork and somatic facilitator, intimacy guide, author, and co-founder of Oríkao, a ceremonial grade heirloom cacao brand sourced from indigenous communities in the Amazon. He has spent over 14 years working at the intersection of embodied practice, plant medicine traditions, traditional Tantra, and sacred sexuality. Known for his ability to bridge ancient wisdom with modern life, Brenden guides individuals and couples into a more intimate relationship with themselves and the people they love.   His work lives in the body: in the breath, in presence, in the places we've learned to armor ourselves against feeling. Rooted in the principles of traditional Tantra and sacred sexuality, he helps people dissolve the walls that keep them from experiencing life and love more fully, reclaiming their body as a place of power, pleasure, and presence.   Brenden has been featured in Forbes, Men's Health, and has appeared on multiple seasons of Netflix's Too Hot to Handle. He is the founder of The Golden Room, a global community for those committed to deeper nervous system health, conscious living, and authentic connection. He is also a devoted father and partner currently raising his daughter between Peru and the United States.   You can follow Brenden's work on Instagram and on his website.   @brendendurell (IG), brenden.durell (YouTube) Follow Layla! 🌸 Instagram 🌐 Website 💌 Weekly Email 🎧 Listen on Apple Podcasts 🎶 Listen on Spotify 💋 MOOD Sexy Plant Activated Supplements 🔥 For Men: Men's Sexual Mastery 🌹 Obliss: The Sexual Masterclass for Women   Timestamps   00:00:45 - Guest introduction 00:02:16 - How Layla and Brenden first met 00:04:09 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification 00:06:28 - What Brenden learned from teaching on a reality TV show 00:07:32 - Our society is sex forward but intimacy terrified 00:08:26 - How an invitation into intimacy can still impact people who are far from that world 00:10:44 - The part of reality TV that takes advantage of people for entertainment 00:15:56 - Layla shares her experience teaching on Netflix's Too Hot to Handle 00:17:07 - How Brenden showed up as the divine masculine for Layla during filming 00:17:27 - What the divine masculine truly is to Brenden 00:19:43 - Brenden describes what presence feels like in his body and mind 00:22:27 - Layla shares one of the great feminine arts she learned from Alison Armstrong 00:25:14 - What Brenden's partner does to make him feel more loved than he ever has 00:25:58 - This is one of the greatest acts of love a woman can offer in partnership 00:27:25 - Why sports pressure was easier for Brenden than being in conflict with his partner 00:28:36 - More men would thrive in relationship if they weren't afraid of this one thing 00:29:35 - A lot of Brenden's partner's requests that help her come out of her spirals are simple 00:30:48 - [AD] 2 FREE sticks of MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir with code PODCAST at checkout 00:32:18 - Why Brenden's relationship has been the greatest lesson for him in intentional living 00:35:15 - How Brenden translates all his personal growth and spiritual work into lovemaking 00:39:40 - Why men need to stay big, not get smaller, to serve 00:41:08 - This is the moment a man decides to come into spiritual work 00:43:12 - What Brenden sees as the reason men have changed so drastically 00:51:02 - What makes Brenden's flavor of divine masculine different than most men's 00:51:27 - You need to be whole in yourself to finally experience true masculinity and femininity 00:53:01 - The #1 thing Brenden would have every man do when he wakes up in the morning 00:55:03 - A simple practice that can change everything for men 00:56:14 - How to bring out the best in a man as a woman 01:00:47 - Brenden shares about his experience inside Layla's program, Men's Sexual Mastery 01:05:01 - The cycle Layla has observed of High Priestesses, Kings, and Queens 01:05:34 - Conclusion  

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