How do I heal past pain that blocks me from being loved as woman now?

During an audience dialogue, a woman says her partner loves her, yet past emotions block her from receiving his love. Barry confirms that the past interferes when she identifies with it, and asks about her everyday discontent. She struggles to name one, eventually admitting doubts about trusting herself as a woman and revealing she facilitates workshops on men and women. Barry argues she shouldn’t teach what she isn’t living; truth must be embodied, or it disturbs the teacher. He advises re-listening to his Making Love tapes and emphasizes his view that a loving man’s task is to help absorb a woman’s past through his body and love. He urges her to let go of attachments to past lovers and drop guilt, which he calls arrogance. Until she’s inwardly right, he suggests pausing teaching, being with her man in honesty, and living now—seeing what she is not—so love can be received.'But there's no past. There's only now.''You can't speak to your fellow man and woman of the truth, if you don't live it yourself.'#BarryLongAnswers #ManAndWoman #ReceivingLove~About the series:This episode is drawn from the second recording of the three-part series “Loving and Living without Attachment,” recorded in the winter of 2002 on the Gold Coast, Australia. The complete series is currently available as a paid product, and it will also be available to stream through The Barry Long Archive soon. Keep an eye on the Archive for the streaming release and related updates.The series presents one of Barry's most helpful teachings for man and woman who aspire to live together harmoniously. He covers many topics around a central theme - attachments, what causes them, why we suffer their effects and how to get rid of them.He is questioned by the audience on the implications for relationships, partnerships and marriage. He speaks about the folly of having beliefs, the familiarity that obscures our attachments and the heartbreak of having to put the truth first. And he shows us how to be more intelligent in our relationships and how to get rid of attachments and keep love alive.Link to series: https://www.barrylong.org/products/audio/loving-and-living-without-attachment~Related topics from the archive:🏷 Man and woman in love: https://www.barrylong.org/archive/topics/480/man-and-woman-in-love🏷 Practical advice for relationships: https://www.barrylong.org/archive/topics/525/practical-advice-for-relationships~Related articles from the archive:📃 Love – as it truly is: https://www.barrylong.org/archive/articles/24/love-%E2%80%93-as-it-truly-is – "Most women's lovemaking experiences are fraught with frustration. Most of the experience of men consists of arousal with the prospect of ejaculation. Between her underlying fears, her reservations and hopes based on past experience, and his dancing excitement, also based on the past, there is very little chance of making true love between the two of them in the now or present. It will produce more emotion than love."📃 A love that endures: https://www.barrylong.org/archive/articles/26/a-love-that-endures~Barry Long Answers is a new, free podcast that invites listeners into the intimate dialogue of audience questions and the spiritual master’s answer. These exchanges provide universal guidance to a range of everyday issues concerning man and woman. Each episode begins with a direct question put to Barry and his uncompromising response.  The series draws from the Barry Long Archive, a repository of over 20 years of Barry Long’s teachings.