How Do I Know If This Is The Right Person? — What The Bible Actually Says | Real Questions Ep. 9

The question most people are asking isn't just "Is this person good?"—it's "How do I know I can trust this?" When faced with theoretical infinity on dating apps and the fear of repeating broken marriages we've seen up close, commitment can feel terrifying. The church's response has often been vague ("Just pray about it, you'll know"), but Scripture offers a much more practical framework. In Episode 9 of the Real Questions series, we move past vague advice and look at what the Bible actually says about choosing a partner: Beyond feelings: How 1 Corinthians 13 describes the observable, behavioral character of love rather than just a feeling. Demonstrated character: Why the story of Ruth and Boaz highlights loyalty under pressure over mere appearance or short-term romance. Navigating uncertainty: Why the absence of complete certainty isn't a sign to walk away, but proof that you are making a decision with real stakes. Community & Time: The vital role of time, handling conflict, and the wisdom of trusted community in revealing character. Real Questions is a pastoral series addressing the honest questions people under 40 carry—without platitudes, grounding every topic in careful readings of biblical texts. Key Scriptures in this Episode:Ruth 1:16–17 — Ruth's covenant of loyalty 1 Corinthians 13:4–7 — The behavioral character of love Ecclesiastes 4:9–10 — Two are better than one; mutual lifting in partnership 💬 Question for the Comments:What are you actually afraid of when you think about committing to another person? Leave your honest answer below—we read every one. 🔔 Subscribe to Bible Chapter by Chapter for more honest, grounded biblical conversations.🌐 Learn more at www.biblechapterbychapter.com #RealQuestions #BibleChapterByChapter #ChristianDating #Relationships #BiblicalWisdom #1Corinthians13 #RuthAndBoaz