How do I stop attracting unhealthy partners?

What makes a relationship truly healthy—and how do you recognize when it's not? Is it about working harder, lowering your expectations, or changing who you are to keep love alive? Or is something deeper at play when the same painful patterns keep repeating? In this episode of Ask Angela: Relationship Advice for Love After Trauma, Angela Amias responds to a listener who is tired of attracting unhealthy partners and wants to understand how to build real, mutual connection instead of overworking to hold relationships together. Angela explores: Why you can't work harder to turn an unhealthy dynamic into a healthy one How to recognize early signs of emotional unavailability or dismissiveness The difference between normal relationship challenges and genuinely toxic patterns Why love that is healthy can feel unfamiliar—especially after past relational wounds How raising your standards (rather than lowering them) supports lasting connection What it truly means to be "good enough" in love If you've ever found yourself bending, shrinking, or over-functioning just to keep a relationship going—or questioning whether you deserve more—this episode offers grounded, empowering relationship guidance for choosing healthy relationships rooted in self-respect and clarity.   ✑ Join the conversation at askangela.co or leave a question at askangelapodcast.com ✫ Because everyone deserves love, trust, and connection in their relationships—and you don't have to figure it out alone.   Read more Ask Angela: Relationship Advice for Love After Trauma