How Do We End The Gender War In The Black Community?

 If there is, in fact, not a current GENDER WAR going on in the AFRICAN-AMERICAN COMMUNITY, the blame game between BLACK MEN & WOMEN is unfortunately never ending. On THE REAL talk show, LONI LOVE suggested that BLACK MEN in general don't know how to have healthy or faithful relationship. CHARLAMAGNE THA GOD of the BREAKFAST CLUB retorted that is not a factual narrative since BLACK MEN DON'T CHEAT. Both SEXES seem to enjoy telling the other what they can do to be better, without holding their own gender fully accountable for their own actions.  Why have phrases like "Niggas Ain't Shit" or "Can't Trust A Bitch" become common vernacular inside certain groups of Blacks? Or is the resurgence of AFRICAN-AMERICANS adoring their own beauty and encouraging BLACK LOVE, proof that the media constantly feeds into negative stereotypes hoping to manufacturing discord between BLACK MEN & WOMEN that is not real?  MENTAL DIALOGUE asking the questions America's afraid to ask.  ALL I ASK IS THAT YOU THINK   According to BLACK DEMOGRAPHICS only 25% of BLACK WOMEN  & 32% of BLACK MEN are married in comparison to other racial groups who are married at 48% or higher. Does the GENDER WAR factoring into these low marriage rates at all?