How Does This Make ME Feel?" - YOUR Feelings as YOUR Truth MAY 2026 - Week 2: The ONE Question

What happens when you're 10 minutes into recording and realize something feels... off? Today's episode is raw and real. Nyomi stopped recording, went to her altar, pulled cards, and came back with THE distinction that changes everything. YOUR feelings about what serves YOUR life = YOUR truth. Trust them. OTHER people's feelings about YOUR choices ≠ YOUR truth. Don't take them personally. This is the ONE question that will transform your closet—and your life.THE REAL STORYNyomi stopped recording 10 minutes in because the script said "Your feelings are your truth. Trust your feelings." But she thought: "Wait. We're taught feelings AREN'T truth. Feelings are emotions. That's where arguments come from." So she went to her altar, pulled 5 cards, and got THE answer: The distinction is WHOSE feelings. THE DISTINCTION (CRYSTAL CLEAR)YOUR Feelings About YOUR Life = YOUR Truth When you ask: "How does THIS make ME feel?" When you're deciding: "Does THIS serve MY life?" → TRUST THESE FEELINGS. They're YOUR internal compass. OTHER People's Feelings About YOU ≠ YOUR Truth When THEY think you should keep something. When THEY have opinions about YOUR choices. → DON'T TAKE THESE PERSONALLY. That's about THEM, not YOU. EXAMPLES IN YOUR CLOSET (Your feelings = Your truth): You put on a dress. Your body tenses. You feel uncomfortable. → "This doesn't serve me. Release it." TRUST THIS. SOMEONE'S OPINION (Their feelings ≠ Your truth): Friend says: "But you spent money on that! Keep it!" Your truth: It makes you uncomfortable. → Release it anyway. Don't take their opinion personally.MEL ROBBINS' WISDOM "If a piece makes you feel small, ashamed, or disconnected from yourself, it does not belong in your future." The question isn't "Should I keep this?" (logic, external expectations) The question is "How does this make ME feel?" (YOUR internal compass)SHOULD VS. FEEL "Should" = What others expect, what society says, external rules → Disconnects you from what serves YOU "Feel" = YOUR body's wisdom, YOUR heart's truth, YOUR alignment → Guides you to what serves YOUR becomingYOUR BODY KNOWSWhen something supports you: Body relaxes, shoulders drop, you breathe easier, you feel like YOURSELF When something doesn't serve you: Body tenses, you pull at fabric, you avoid mirrors, you feel like PERFORMING Your body's feedback = YOUR truth about what serves YOUR lifeTHE EXERCISE Step 1: Pick up each itemStep 2: Put it on or hold it upStep 3: Ask: "How does this make ME feel?"Step 4: Notice your body's response (relax or tense?) Step 5: Honor that feeling as YOUR truth Keep it if it makes you feel: good, grounded, confident, like yourself Release it if it makes you feel: small, ashamed, uncomfortable, disconnected5 REFLECTION QUESTIONSWhat am I keeping because I "should" instead of because it actually feels good?What makes me feel small, ashamed, or disconnected from myself?What makes me feel confident, grounded, and like MYSELF?How do I feel when I open my closet each morning?If I only kept clothes that made me feel good, what would I release?CLOSING AFFIRMATIONMy feelings about MY life are MY truth.I trust what serves ME.I release what doesn't. I honor my body's wisdom. I follow my internal compass.I let go of "should" and embrace "feel." I am aligned with MY becoming.I am reclaimed. I am unashamed. I am ready.THE BOTTOM LINE For YOUR closet/life: "How does this make ME feel?" → Trust this. It's YOUR truth. For OTHERS' opinions: "That's their feeling, not mine." → Don't take it personally. That's the distinction. That's the key.NEXT EPISODE Action Wednesday: The Feeling Audit - Going through your closet piece by piece doing a feeling check on each item. Bring your journal and your honesty.CONNECT Instagram: @TheRealNyomiBanks | @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast YouTube: @TheSeasonofSelfLovewNyomiBanks Website: AskNyomi.comNOTE FROM NYOMI "I pray that you followed me all the way through this. I definitely had to stop ten minutes in and come back and redo it all over again." If you need extra clarity, the full detailed show notes are on the website. But here's the key: YOUR feelings about YOUR life = trust them. OTHER people's feelings about YOUR choices = don't take them personally. Season 5 = More real, more honest, more action. Let's do the work. Credit: Inspired by Mel Robbins' Instagram post about closets #ReclaimingYourCloset #SeasonOfSelfLove #Season5 #YourFeelingsYourTruth #TheDistinction #ReclaimedAndUnashamedBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-season-of-self-love--6003379/support."Thank you for spending this time with me on The Season of Self Love. Remember, self-love isn't selfish – it's sacred. You are worthy of the love you so freely give to others.If today's episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs this reminder. And don't forget to rate and review the show – it helps us reach more beautiful souls.Connect with me on Instagram @TheRealNyomiBanks and @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcastvisit theseasonofselflovepodcast.com for resources and our downloadable workbook.Want to be a guest on The Season of Self Love? Send Nyomi Banks a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/171967138753618818df2d7f3Until Monday – keep choosing YOU.This is your girl, the goddess Nyomi Banks. Stay in your season."