How I Built Confidence From Nothing and You Can Too

Here is something I don't think people expect me to say. It took me 14 years to actually feel confident. Like genuinely, deeply, not-faking-it confident.The girl you see on social media selling makeup, running a beauty empire, coaching thousands of women? She spent most of her life deeply insecure about her looks, her capability, and her money. She faked confidence so hard that it came across as obnoxious. And she spent years comparing herself to everyone around her while quietly falling apart inside.In Episode 4 I am getting into all of it. How comparison steals your confidence before you even realize it is happening. How growing up Filipino in a predominantly white small town in Michigan left me feeling like the sore thumb in every room I walked into. How a comment about my love handles in middle school sent me to get lipo as an adult. How I spent the early years of motherhood sobbing over my baby's milestones because I was too busy comparing myself to every other mom around me.And the three seasons of my life where I finally proved to myself that I was capable of more than where I came from.Confidence is not something you are born with. It is not linked to money or status or a perfect body. It is something you build. And I am going to show you how.New episodes every week. Subscribe 💜📲 Follow Taking Life by the Raines:Instagram: instagram.com/takinglifebytheraines/TikTok: tiktok.com/takinglifebytheraFacebook: facebook.com/takinglifebytheraines/📲 Follow Brandi:Instagram: instagram.com/brandirainesbeauty/TikTok: tiktok.com/brandirainesbeautyFacebook: facebook.com/followbrandiraines/About me + my links: msha.ke/brandirainesbeauty_Shop my Komigo storefront: komigo.me/brandi🎧 Listen on Spotify and Apple Podcasts: takinglifebytheraines.com0:00 Welcome — diving into confidence after 14 years of building it0:27 What confidence actually is — not what social media says it is1:36 Why she's sharing her insecurities — so you can see yourself2:42 The one thing that stops women from finding success3:46 Her biggest insecurity growing up — her looks4:23 Growing up Filipino in Michigan — looking different from everyone5:56 Third grade gym class — the "Chinese eyes" moment that stuck7:28 The weight insecurity — Hollister jeans, love handles, and competitive dance9:15 How a childhood insecurity led to lipo as an adult10:31 Insecurity 2 — capability: believing where I came from was the ceiling12:00 Insecurity 3 — finances and hiding past-due bills as a kid14:31 What fake confidence looks like from the outside16:20 Comparison — the thief of joy and creator of false reality16:49 Her love-hate relationship with social media18:08 Comparing herself to other moms — the beach condo story19:30 Hudson's milestones vs. her niece — sobbing over a baby who couldn't sit up23:23 Goals set from comparison not calling — retiring Casey before he wanted it27:08 Confidence does not come from other people's perception of you28:25 Motivation vs. discipline — what actually builds confidence over time30:27 Fixate on what God has for you — stop the hamster wheel of comparison31:31 Three seasons that proved she was capable — turning points32:30 Season 1 — moving to Florida in 2011 with $2,000 and a prayer35:02 Season 2 — meeting Casey and breaking the generational mold37:00 Season 3 — 2020, the pandemic, and her business going 10x40:07 U-Haul to Georgia — laying on a mattress and feeling proud41:31 When her confidence finally stopped being a performance43:37 Teaching her kids — don't ask if they like you, ask how you feel44:35 Confidence is not born, it is built — and it comes in seasons45:31 Confidence grows with faith — actionable steps to get there46:54 Closing — it is never too late to blossom into what God is calling youhow to build confidence | comparison and insecurity | confidence for women | self esteem podcast | personal growth women | stop comparing yourself | women empowerment podcast | Christian women podcast | millennial mom podcast | social media and confidence#takinglifebytheraines #brandiraines #confidence #selfesteem #stopcomparing #womenempowerment #christianwomen #millennialmom #personalgrowth #faithjourney