How Misuse of the CTFAR Model Causes Us to Bulldoze Our Nervous Systems

If your body or nervous system isn’t on board when you’re choosing new thoughts to believe, the unconscious programming will, with time usually override those unsustainable affirmations you’re offering up. If we want to live that life of freedom, joy, openness, abundance, love, and peace, that comes with befriending our body, not ignoring it. And this is the approach we take in Relationship Trauma Certification for Coaches. We’re developing out your relationship with YOUrself, with the language of your body. Learning about your UNIQUE PATTERNS of processing, thinking, manifesting, and healing. Developing the belief that you are the final authority on YOU, and your needs. Learning the language of YOUR body that only YOU know. In this episode your host Lindsay Poelman talks about how the CTFAR model can be a great tool to help you in your healing journey, but is not necessarily a substitute for your body's intuition. She discusses things like:How it’s a common thing for us to gaslight ourselves as women,  Why we question ourselves when something goes wrong, or something goes amiss.How many times have you found yourself questioning your “crazy” in different parts of your life? The abuse culture that has been normalized in our patriarchal society has caused us to internalize the pattern of self-gaslighting self blame, and over responsibility.Are you a life coach who is ready to become Trauma-Informed? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Relationship Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you.Want to see what other programs she offers? Check out her website here: Website.Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching---Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage.  After processing and accepting her circumstance more fully, she found coaching—which propelled her into a forward focused state of empowerment. Over the last four years of deep dive/fundamental coaching for women in betrayal (around porn use, spouses coming out around gender identity and sexuality, childhood neglect and abuse, substance abuse, infidelity, emotional abuse, domestic violence, institutional trauma, and more.), she has observed that if you’re working with humans, you can’t handpick clients who don’t carry trauma. This is why I have developed a Trauma-Informed approach to mindset work and relationships that take into account the nuance of being a human. She believes that being trauma informed is an essential standard of care for coaches. She created this podcast to support life coaches who recognize that there is so much more than mindset work when it comes to supporting their clients responsibly.Lindsay’s current program offerings:Looking for a new career as a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach? It’s time to Become a Trauma-Informed Coach. Learn more about Lindsay's life coach certification here. Next round starts September, 2025!Are you already a Certified Coach looking to deepen your skillset by Becoming Trauma-Informed, with a spiritual twist? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Intuitive Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you. Our next round will begin September, 2025. Want a certification above + PRIVATE MENTORSHIP from yours truly? I have limited spaced available. Apply here.Check out her website here: Website.Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching---Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage.  After processing and accepting her circumstance more fully, she found coaching—which propelled her into a forward focused state of empowe...