How Neurodivergent Trauma Shapes Relationships, Time Blindness, and Self-Trust

What if the hardest parts of ADHD aren’t about focus or productivity — but about relationships, shame, and feeling safe with other people?In this episode with Harris Eddie Hill, we explore how neurodivergent brains are shaped by early relational experiences, especially when childhood includes chronic criticism, misunderstanding, or unmet emotional needs. You’ll hear why ADHD and autistic children receive significantly more negative feedback than their peers, and how that erodes trust, belonging, and self-confidence over time.We talk about relational trauma, attachment patterns, and why neurodivergent adults often end up in one-sided friendships or unstable relationships — even after years of insight and talk therapy. There’s also a deep dive into time perception, time blindness, and why being late has nothing to do with disrespect and everything to do with dopamine, stress, and nonlinear thinking.This conversation reframes hyperfocus, curiosity, and self-advocacy as strengths — not flaws — and offers a compassionate path toward asking for accommodations, trusting your nervous system, and building relationships that actually fit your brain.Contact Harris and the Centre for Childhood Trauma HealingYour Lab Kit:Redefine the real problem.Ask for support that suits you.Let curiosity lead the way.----------------------------------------------------------------------The ADHD Alchemy Podcast is where bright, sensitive women finally stop masking and start thriving—with clarity, confidence, and shameless potential.We’re sharing real stories that help us turn friction into flow, liability into leverage, and resistance into rhythm. If your brain feels like a thousand tabs are open and five radio stations are playing at once, you’re in the right place!I’m Jessica Covington and I’ve always had a slightly different way of doing things, including ADHD. In my work, we leverage the body-mind connection to harness the beautiful potential you’ve always known is there but haven’t been able to use. My guests and I are here to help you quiet the shame, trust yourself again, and create a life that feels calm, focused, and fully yours.These are the stories of women like us: the ones who think differently; who’ve tried every damn system, planner, and app but nothing sticks; who’ve spent years and all their energy trying to seem "normal"; and who are finally ready to see ADHD without shame, guilt, or apology.Stick with us here to remember you are NOT a failure, you’re not alone in the chaos, and you are certainly not deficient or disordered. Apply to be a guest and share your own story here.Learn more at fit-ology.com. Join the conversation – it’s in our own little space away from algorithms, and it’s free!Co-work with us in Focus Labs – Tuesdays at 1pm eastern. Free and open to any Fancy Brain (but we need your registration to attend).Grab your copy of “Distracted to Done”Help yourself to the “Move Your Body - Move Your Mind Map” Learn more about ADHD Alchemy Coaching (private and group pathways are open now)On the socials (sporadically!):Facebook PageFancy Brains Facebook GroupJessica on LinkedInInstagramBlog on MediumMusic credit goes to my son, TAZZFANTO, who composed and produced this song just for us.This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes; always check with your healthcare provider before making changes to diet, exercise and mental health care. This episode may contain affiliate links and mentions; we are grateful for your support.