How Not to Ruin Your Relationships | Drs. John & Julie Gottman

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- What 40 years of research tells us about how to cultivate good relationships in our lives. World-renowned for his work on marital stability and divorce prediction, Dr. John Gottman has conducted over 40 years of breakthrough research with thousands of couples. He is the co-founder of The Gottman Institute and Affective Software Inc. as well as author of over 200 published academic articles and author or co-author of more than 40 books, including The New York Times bestseller The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work.  Dr. Julie Gottman is the Co-Founder and President of The Gottman Institute and Co-Founder of Affective Software, Inc. A highly respected clinical psychologist and author, she is sought internationally by media and organizations as an expert advisor on marriage, domestic violence, gay and lesbian adoption, same-sex marriage, and parenting issues. She is the co-creator of the immensely popular The Art and Science of Love weekend workshop for couples and she also co-designed the national clinical training program in Gottman Method Couples Therapy.  In this episode we talk about: how to talk (and listen) to your partner in moments of conflict what to do before you start trying to solve a problem together why "there's no such thing as constructive criticism"  the details of John's research findings, which have allowed him to predict with stunning accuracy whether a couple will get divorced how the Gottmans themselves do when it comes to operationalizing their findings/advice how and why betrayal occurs when a couple should consider separating  the role mindfulness can play in healthy relationships and the role of humor in relationships. Related Episodes: Six Buddhist Strategies for Getting Along Better with Everyone | Sister True Dedication The Science of Emotional Intelligence | Daniel Goleman Improving Your Relationships - Buddhist Style | Martine Batchelor Sign up for Dan's weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes For tickets to Dan Harris: Celebrating 10 Years of 10% Happier at Symphony Space: click here Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/gottmans-418-rerun Additional Resources: Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/install