How Power, Conflict, and Attachment Shape Decisions In Divorce

Send us Fan MailDivorce decisions are rarely made in a calm, rational bubble. When fear hits, money can turn into leverage, conflict can become a reflex, and old power dynamics can keep running the show even after you decide the marriage is over. We sit down with negotiation professor and mediation coach Merideth Thompson, Ph.D. to unpack the real drivers behind “bad deals” in divorce and how to protect yourself before the process protects you.We dig into how finances get weaponized through control, hidden information, and pressure tactics, and why that uncertainty makes people more likely to settle out of panic. We also talk about the “conflict lens” and how constant fighting doesn’t just raise attorney fees, it drains assets, delays closure, and creates instability that kids feel first. Meredith brings negotiation and relationship science into plain language, helping us shift from rigid demands to underlying interests like security, workable co-parenting, and a future you can actually live with.Then we get practical about divorce mediation and negotiation preparation: writing down goals, naming non-negotiables, and rank-ordering priorities so you know where to fight hard and where to trade. Meredith explains the research behind aspiration points and why your target matters, plus the role of creativity under high stakes, including a memorable “peace and freedom account” strategy that reduces emotional friction while you rebuild your life.If you found this helpful, subscribe to Modern Family Matters, share this with someone navigating divorce or separation, and leave a review so more families can find real guidance. What part of divorce decision-making feels hardest to you right now?If you would like to speak with one of our attorneys, please call our office at (503) 227-0200, or visit our website at https://www.pacificcascadelegal.com.To learn more about how Merideth can help you, you can view her website at: https://merideththompson.com/Disclaimer: Nothing in this communication is intended to provide legal advice nor does it constitute a client-attorney relationship, therefore you should not interpret the contents as such.