How Sophie recovered from postpartum insomnia by moving away from trying to control her sleep so she could regain control over her life (#67)

Although Sophie never considered herself to be a good sleeper, things got really difficult after the birth of her son. As a new mom, she knew there would be some short-term sleep disruption — but when she was no longer able to compensate for lost sleep after her parents left and her partner returned to work, things got really difficult. Sophie's doctor prescribed her medication and she found herself increasing the dosage to make sleep happen but it wasn't working for her. Benadryl didn't work. Turning off all screens two hours before bedtime didn't work. Wearing blue light blocking glasses didn't work. Having a relaxation routine didn't work. At this point, Sophie felt desperate. She wanted to have a bigger family but thought that would be impossible if her sleep didn't improve. She was no longer sharing a bed with her partner even though that was something that was important to her. She felt like a failure. She felt trapped. When she found the Insomnia Coach podcast, Sophie realized that she wasn't alone and that there was a way out of the struggle. She started implementing a sleep window and she used the time she spent awake at night to do meaningful projects such as creating a baby photo book, rather than tossing and turning and battling away trying to make sleep happen. Things improved for a few months until insomnia returned and seemed to take over her life. At this point, Sophie decided to work with me. She wanted a clear plan. A new way forward. She wanted to arm herself with skills that would help her get her life back from insomnia. Sophie shifted the focus of her attention away from trying to make a certain amount or type of sleep happen and toward actions that reflected her values and that kept her moving toward the life she wanted to live, independently of sleep. As she did this, she realized just how capable she was. She could get stuff done — stuff that mattered to her — regardless of how she slept. This left her feeling empowered and reduced the power and influence sleep had over her life. She no longer put as much pressure on herself to make sleep happen. This, in turn, helped sleep become increasingly effortless. The difficult thoughts and feelings that often come with insomnia also started to lose their power and influence as Sophie became more aware of the power she had in choosing how to respond to them. Sophie experienced ups and downs on her journey. And yet, she remained committed to the new way forward she had chosen for herself. Sleep no longer predetermines how she will feel the next day or what she will do the next day. She knows she always has options and is always in control of the choices she makes. She's back to sharing a bed with her partner. She is ready to grow her family. She is free from the insomnia struggle.