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EPISODE · Jul 21, 2025 · 32 MIN

How to Avoid the Drama in Your Renovation or New Build

from Get It Right with Undercover Architect · host Amelia Lee, Undercover Architect

Hello! This is Episode 366, and in it, I’m diving into the Drama Triangle and how it can show up in the communication and relationships involved in your renovation or new build project. This episode is a little different to the usual tips, strategies, and homeowner stories I share here. But I know from experience - personally and professionally - that how you communicate can make or break your project journey. [For all resources mentioned in this podcast and a free, downloadable PDF transcript, head to www.undercoverarchitect.com/366] When things get stressful, uncertain, or emotionally charged, it’s easy to fall into unhelpful patterns without even realising it. You might shut down, lash out, try to fix everything for everyone, or feel like you’re walking on eggshells. These responses often come from roles we unconsciously play. Roles like Victim, Persecutor, or Rescuer, are part of a well-known psychological model called the Drama Triangle. In this episode, I’ll walk you through what the Drama Triangle is, why it’s so common in building and renovating, and how you can shift out of these roles into something far more empowering, using what’s known as the Empowerment Dynamic. Whether you’re dealing with a tricky team member, struggling to make decisions, or feeling overwhelmed by the process, this episode will give you fresh tools and insights to approach things differently… with more clarity, confidence, and control. As always, if you’d like to access a full transcript of this episode and links to the resources I mention, head to www.undercoverarchitect.com/366. Now, let’s dive in! RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS PODCAST: For links, images and resources mentioned in this podcast, head to >>> www.undercoverarchitect.com/366 Accessing my free '44 Ways' E-Book will simplify sustainability and help you create a healthy, low tox and sustainable home. You can download your free copy here >>> https://undercoverarchitect.com/ways Access the support and guidance you need to be confident and empowered when renovating and building your family home inside my flagship online program >>> https://undercoverarchitect.com/courses/the-home-method/ Just a reminder: All content on this podcast is provided by Undercover Architect for reference purposes and as general guidance. It does not take into account specific circumstances and should not be relied on in that way. You should seek independent verification or advice before relying on this content in any circumstances, including but not limited to circumstances where loss or damage may result. The views and opinions of any guests on the podcast are solely their own. They may not reflect the views of Undercover Architect. Undercover Architect endeavours to publish content that is accurate at the time it is published, but does not accept responsibility for content that may or has become inaccurate over time.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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