How To Be A Horrible, Mean, Bad Woman (feat. Horrible Mean Bad Woman)

In this week’s episode of The Audaci-Tea Podcast, hosts Lisa and Sovereign are joined by returning guest Sarah, also known as Horrible Mean Bad Woman, to ask the question men desperately don’t want you to:    What if being a “good woman” is the problem?   Together, they break down how women are socially conditioned into constant niceness, emotional labor, and moral responsibility, all while men are never held to the same standards. Sarah unpacks the power of embracing the “horrible, mean, bad woman” identity as a rejection of impossible expectations designed to keep women compliant.   Together they explore how male behavior is excused while women are expected to absorb harm gracefully, how agreeing with men’s negative stereotypes can expose the absurdity of their logic, and why redefining your identity outside of patriarchy is a necessary step toward real autonomy.   But first, in Tea Time, Lisa and Sovereign discuss the shocking murder case involving singer D4vd, the reality behind churches requiring sexual misconduct insurance, Nikki Glaser’s comments about non-monogamy on the Call Her Daddy podcast, and the internet’s reaction to influencer MJ Gray’s engagement.   Later, they open the mailbag for one of the wildest listener stories yet, covering a journey from trad marriage to dominatrix to taking down her pedophile father.   🎧 This episode is an unapologetic look at how to embrace your full potential to become the most horrible, mean, bad woman you can be!   🎙️ Topics Discussed: • The pressure on women to be “good” and endlessly accommodating • Emotional labor, morality, and unequal standards between men and women • Reclaiming identity outside patriarchal expectations • Using humor and “agree and amplify” to expose male logic • Why women are not responsible for fixing men or dismantling patriarchy • Embracing autonomy, boundaries, and self definition   ✨ Links and Resources Mentioned: Singer D4vd charged with murder https://www.latimes.com/california/story/2026-04-20/d4vd-murder-charge-slaying-celeste-rivas-hernandez The Clergy Abuse Crisis Has Cost The Catholic Church $3 Billion https://www.npr.org/2018/08/18/639698062/the-clergy-abuse-crisis-has-cost-the-catholic-church-3-billion Exposing A Global ‘Rape Academy’ https://www.cnn.com/interactive/2026/03/world/expose-rape-assault-online-vis-intl/index.html Gisèle Pelicot case https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/c89xde5qzvgo Woman sets man on fire case https://www.abc.net.au/news/2025-05-08/corbie-walpole-sentenced-burning-jake-loader-howlong-sentence/105265038   📚 This Week’s Recommendation: Follow Sarah https://linktr.ee/HorribleMeanBadWoman   💌 Join the Conversation: Got questions or wild stories to share? Email us at [email protected] with “The Audaci-Tea” in the subject line.   ☕✨ Support the Show: Join our Patreon and become a Tea VIP for perks like: •Early access to every episode (and the show notes!) •Ad-free listening or viewing •Our weekly bonus unhinged and uncensored Crumpets after show •Priority mailbag + topic submissions, and voting power on future topics  •Access to our private women only community, and chat channels just for you 👉 https://www.patreon.com/audacitea   🛍️ Shop The Audaci-Tea Merch Store https://audaci-tea-shop.fourthwall.com   ▶️ Subscribe and watch full episodes on YouTube https://youtube.com/@theaudaci-teapodcast   📱 Follow Us Online: TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@the_audacitea0 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/the_audaci-tea_podcast Facebook https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585115231509 Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/1qfGGpJ0aS626IGBGwLtdU Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-audaci-tea/id1779370788   🕰️ Episode Chapters: 00:00 Welcome and Tea Time! 04:31 D4vd Charged With Murder 09:01 Church Sexual Misconduct Insurance 12:28 Misandry and Double Standards 14:36 Nikki Glaser and Non Monogamy 21:26 MJ Gray Engagement Reaction 30:08 Welcome Back Sarah! 37:24 The Burden of Female Morality 44:39 Embracing the “Horrible Woman” Mentality 51:27 The Absurdity Of Male Arguments 01:01:06 The Illusion of Female Moral Responsibility 01:16:56 Embracing the 'Worst Woman' Persona 01:25:30 Mailbag: A Listeners Journey Away From Trad-Wifery 01:47:28 Poll Results   🎙️ The Audaci-Tea is a production of Siren Sound, executively produced by Lisa Carr and The Sovereign Woman. Music, audio, video, and show production by Ryan Marth and Siren Sound.   📩 For advertising or inquiries: [email protected]   💡 Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed in this podcast are those of the hosts and guests and do not necessarily reflect the views of Siren Sound or its affiliates.