How to be alone without feeling lonely
from Friend Material Hosted by Wes Lambert
You get home, the apartment is quiet, and before your keys hit the counter you're already on your phone. Here's why being alone feels so hard. Loneliness and being alone aren't the same thing. Isolation means there's no one around. Loneliness is the felt sense that no one is with you, and you can feel it in a room full of people. A lot of us in our twenties and thirties treat silence like a threat, so we fill it with screens, a drink, work that never shuts off, or a calendar packed so tight there's never a quiet minute. It works, until it doesn't. In this episode I get into why the quiet hits so hard, the ways we numb it out, and how to build up your tolerance for being with yourself so it stops running your life. I also share how bad I used to be at this, and what it took to change. Expect to learn:- The difference between loneliness, solitude and isolation- Why your brain floods the silence with the negative- The four most common ways we numb out: screens, substances, work and people- How to build tolerance for being alone, starting with ten minutes- Why you can be alone in public and still feel at peace- The Rep: ten minutes, no screen, no substance, and notice what shows up Get InvolvedWork with me 1:1: https://forms.fillout.com/t/tMuQUix3EDusJoin the brotherhood (Fireside, free): https://www.skool.com/fireside-1264Website: https://www.weslambert.meEmail: [email protected]: https://substack.com/@weslambertSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5Yv1ciX90C3zdPxD67kjyYApple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-mature-male/id1805978833
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