How to Be in the Same Room as Your Ex Without Losing Yourself (or Ruining the Day)

In this episode, I’m diving deep into the emotional and energetic minefield of being in the same room as your ex for your child’s graduation, birthday, or big life celebration.I share behind-the-scenes insights and expert perspectives on what it really takes to show up with grace—even when it’s hard. While I believe, wholeheartedly, that children deserve the best of both parents in one room, I also know it’s not always simple. There are painful exceptions—especially when one parent is so consumed by ego, resentment, or unresolved pain that they simply can’t show up with empathy or maturity.Here’s the truth: your personal discomfort should never dictate your ability to be present for your child. Milestone moments aren’t about your past relationship—they’re about your child’s memory of who showed up and how.In this episode, I also share a real-life moment from a client—a stepmother preparing to walk into a room with her husband’s ex-wife after years of court battles and alienation. The energy she needed to step into wasn’t about proving anything. It was about remembering who she is and what she stands for. I gave her a “pep talk” that I think every parent (and stepparent) could use before navigating a similar moment.It reminded me of 2020, when I stood firmly in my truth, even when it wasn’t popular—refusing to let my kids wear masks because I saw the deeper damage being done. “You walk in like you would in any room. You know things others don’t—not to strut, but also not to shrink.”This episode is a fierce yet compassionate reminder: we lead by example—and that’s the highest form of love.