How to Create Emotional Safety in Your Relationship

Emotional safety is when we are in a relationship with someone where we feel 100% safe and secure with that person. We feel seen and respected when we’re with this person, and we’re not afraid to share what we’re thinking even if it feels vulnerable. A healthy relationship has emotional safety and trust in it. To be completely vulnerable and intimate with someone, you have to feel safe!    However, when relationships don’t have it, it can be almost impossible to feel authentic intimacy. We might feel like we have to hide pieces of ourselves in order for us to ‘be whole’ in the relationship. Instead of just ‘being’, we feel like we have to fit in, even if it means compromising our sense of self. It can be very hard to feel emotional safety in a relationship like this because you’re not able to freely express yourself.    So, how do we truly know we’re in an emotional safe place vs. unsafe place? The first indicator is how that person shows up when you set boundaries. Do they listen to you? Do they get upset? What is their reaction?    It’s important to recognize that emotional safety does build overtime as you get to know your partner better. It can actually be a very slow boil to build up trust with someone new. When you dive too quickly into a relationship, you might not be giving the relationship the space it needs to prosper, and to really understand whether your partner is a good candidate for emotional safety.    The good news is that, through conflict, there is opportunity for growth. If you’re having conflict with your partner, this can actually be a good thing because you’ve been given the chance to know more about your partner in a unique way. As long as the conflict doesn’t turn toxic, you can continue to build trust and safety, which will eventually lead to emotional safety!    Continue Your Growth Journey: Kaminiwood.com