How to Deal With Criticism When You've Reached Your Limit

Dr Sarah Coope joins me to talk about the workload of medical professionals and the benefits of setting boundaries while dealing with criticisms amidst the global pandemic. We discuss the three elements of the Drama Triangle and ways to navigate or avoid them reliably. As we dive deeper into their conversation, we emphasise the art of saying 'No' through acknowledging our limits. If you want to take the first step in recognising your limits, handling criticism better and setting proper boundaries, tune in to this episode.Episode Highlights[04:43] The Overarching Challenges Brought by the PandemicThere was and still is much grief, trauma, guilt, and moral injury for doctors.[06:46] Most Impactful Messages from the Podcast Amidst COVIDDr Caroline Walker shared a fundamental key message: ‘It's okay not to be okay’.[09:55] Criticism and Over-responsibility[13:03] Setting Boundaries around ResponsibilitiesWe need to make peace with our limits. [17:23] Should-ing and Ought-ingWe often take criticism personally because it targets our deepest insecurities.[20:26] Hippocratic Oath ShamingOverdoing your duties circles back to the saviour-rescuer.[22:29] Our Core Self-BeliefsAwareness allows us to introspect about the roots and rationale behind our self-beliefs.[25:29] Being in the Victim ModeWe often try to control too much of what we can’t control.[27:08] On the Dangers of ResilienceResilience training is about learning what you can do for yourself.[28:21] Getting Out of the Victim MentalityWe always have a choice, but every choice has unique consequences.[31:00] On Self-SabotageStay in your zone of power and leave the rest of the things you have no control over.[33:23] Tips on Saying ‘No’Give yourself a pause before deciding to say 'Yes' to something. [37:09] Say ‘No’ to the Task, Not the PersonSet a boundary, but remain connected by saying ‘Yes’ to the person.[38:19] What Leaders Could Have Done DifferentlyTell teams that it’s okay to set boundaries and to look after themselves.[42:38] Having a Sense of Pace and BalanceRecognise that the journey is a marathon, not a sprint.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Sign up for a FREE workbook.Join the Shapes Collective Facebook group.Find out more about our training here.Email Rachel or reach her on LinkedIn or Twitter.Check out the Permission to Thrive CPD membership for doctors!Sign up now for the Shapes Toolkit Programs to help you take control of your workload, feel better, and beat burnout. Create your ideal week using the THRIVE Week Planner!Are you interested to join our You Are Not A Frog retreat? Or perhaps you have some questions about failure. Drop us an email at [email protected] to let us know!Mentioned in this episode:🌞 [FREE DOWNLOAD] Summer Recharge Checklist for Doctors🟦 Learn More About Our Training