How to Deal with Family Trauma

Gbotemi Babatunde, a clinical psychologist, discusses intergenerational trauma and how unresolved trauma affects child-parent relationships. Babatunde explains trauma as complex and subjective, noting that unprocessed experiences can shape perceptions, trigger protective responses, and be unintentionally transferred to children through modeling, emotional distance, overcontrol, and difficulties with co-regulation. She describes how children seek safety and love, and how parents may focus on material provision while missing emotional needs. In infant mental health, she emphasizes working with parents by exploring their "angels and ghosts in the nursery" to understand parenting patterns and child behavior. Healing begins with awareness, processing painful memories, forgiveness, coping with triggers, intentionality, and repairing ruptures, including apologizing to children; she notes ongoing challenges with teenagers and adult children when control and connection break down.   Timestamps: 00:00 Welcome and Topic Setup 00:43 Meet the Clinical Psychologist 02:39 What Intergenerational Trauma Means 04:55 Unresolved Trauma and Body Memory 07:33 How Parents Pass Pain Down 10:26 Kids Need Safety and Love 11:08 Infant Mental Health Explained 12:26 Ghosts and Angels Framework 13:31 When Behavior Problems Show Up 14:22 Parent as the Starting Point 15:05 Childhood Stories Shape Parenting 18:09 Finding Balance as a Parent 18:45 Good Enough Parenting and Awareness 20:36 Trauma Control and Triggers 21:14 Beyond Quick Fixes 21:42 Kids Want Connection 22:35 Needs Beyond Basics 23:12 Living With Intention 23:54 Healing Through Awareness 26:43 Forgiveness And Reparenting 28:33 Managing Triggers Daily 29:31 Teen Autonomy Clashes 33:27 Repair And Apologies 35:28 Wrap Up And Contacts    Get In Touch: If you're interested in connecting with Gbotemi Babatunde, you can reach her via her email ([email protected]), via Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/alorogbotemi), or via her LinkedIn (https://www.linkedin.com/in/gbotemi-bukola-babatunde-ba933111b/). For those interested in sharing their own stories on "Chatting with the Experts," reach out to Paula Okonneh through her website at chattingwiththeexperts.com or connect via LinkedIn.