How to Find Your Hard Hard Work

In this episode, we dive into the concept of Hard Hard work—the kind of work that moves you closer to your goals, brings meaning to your life, and helps you become the person you truly want to be. We discuss why most of us avoid this type of work, how societal pressures push us toward “Easy Hard” choices, and how to begin the journey back to yourself through intentional effort. Bobby also shares the science behind personal change, including Growth Mindset and Self-Determination Theory, offering listeners practical strategies for identifying and embracing their own Hard Hard work. Key Topics Covered: • What is Hard Hard work and how is it different from Easy Hard? • Why we often avoid the work that matters most to us • The role of societal expectations and internal resistance • Scientific foundations: - Carol Dweck’s Growth Mindset - Ryan & Deci’s Self-Determination Theory (Competence, Connection, Autonomy) - The power of Flow State • Practical steps to find your Hard Hard work: 1. Identify your resistance: What have you been avoiding? 2. Reflect on who you want to become 3. Seek discomfort and meaning in your work 4. Experiment and reflect—try things on 5. Monitor your energy: Does the work fuel or drain you? Takeaways: • Hard Hard work doesn’t have to be physically hard—it’s about alignment with your values and desires. • Doing the work that matters to you leads to increased happiness, fulfillment, and personal growth. • Small steps—even five minutes—can start the transformation. • Self-leadership is the foundation for becoming the person you want to be and for leading others. Action Step: This week, commit to spending just five minutes on something you’ve been avoiding—something that might be your Hard Hard. Notice how it makes you feel, the discomfort it brings, and reflect on whether it aligns with who you want to become. Connect with Bobby: Email: [email protected] Share your progress or ask questions—I am happy to be your guide on this journey. If You Found This Helpful: Share this episode with someone who needs to hear it. Subscribe to the podcast for more on Hard Hard work, self-leadership, and building a life of purpose. Resources Mentioned: • Dweck, C. S. (2006). Mindset: The New Psychology of Success. • Ryan, R. M., & Deci, E. L. (2000). Self-Determination Theory. • Csikszentmihalyi, M. (1990). Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience.