How to Find Your Style When Your Identity Keeps Changing

Your style was never lost. It evolved. In this personal episode of Élever with Mama Kesh, I take you through my own 6 phases — teenage years, early 20s, after my life-changing accident, motherhood, corporate, and now dressing through my filters everyday — to show you what stayed true and what had to grow. If you are asking about personal style , how to find your style , or style identity , start here: don’t ask “what was I thinking?” Ask “what has always been there?” IN THIS EPISODE: I share how clothes reveal what you think about yourself in every season, and why authenticity means your visual expression matches the woman you are even as you evolve. My 6 phases: 1. Teenage Me: I cared about the whole look — bag, shoes, jewelry, hair. An outfit was a presentation. I was experimenting with music, movies, culture and magazines, asking “who am I allowed to be and where do I belong?” 2. Early 20s: My love for presence and accessories stayed. I wanted to feel complete, with fitted clothes, heels, drama and silhouette. At 20, presence meant “look at me.” 3. After My Accident: The turning point. A car crash that nearly took my life took me from heels to a wheelchair. Looking at my heels in the corner, I vowed to get back into them — not from vanity, but because they represented recognition. That season forced the question: what kind of woman do I want to be recognized as? My answer became clear: polished, feminine, grounded, presence. 4. Motherhood: My body, schedule, and time changed. My old formula no longer worked. But polish, presence, and finishing details stayed — heels just had to work differently. A new role doesn’t mean abandoning the woman underneath. 5. Corporate Me: I added authority, structure, and precision. I share the executive lounge story — when I was dressed so intentionally I was mistaken for a VP. Dress how you want to be addressed. That is just the truth. 6. Now - My Filters Everyday: The core of Kesh is still recognizable. I no longer dress for “am I classy, am I elegant?” I dress through my filters: Presence, Intentional Details, Completion, and Intentional Femininity. YOUR 4 STYLE CODES THAT NEVER CHANGED: * Presence — how you enter a space * Accessories — shoes, bag, jewelry, lip, hair that turn clothes into looks * Completion — nothing feels missing * Intentional Femininity — lace, crepe, satin, softness even in structured looks Try this for yourself: What keeps repeating? What feeling are you constantly trying to recreate? What changed because you matured — not because the old you was wrong? Let me know in the comments: What is your one-word constant? And which phase are you in right now — Teen, 20s, Defining, Motherhood, Corporate, or Filtering? #PersonalStyle #HowToFindYourStyle #StyleIdentity #CorporateStyle #EleverWithMamaKesh Youtube: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLZVx0IOw7kAzAV4P2Txu_krymMlxv4q-r&si=3Bb1GDTTtPDRo8x1 Spotify: Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/fr/podcast/%C3%A9lever-with-mama-kesh/id1858675121?l=en-GB This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mamakesh1.substack.com