EPISODE · Dec 14, 2025 · 40 MIN
How to Flirt Without Being Awkward | Ep 169
from The Asian Dating Podcast · host May Bugenhagen
In this episode, May sits down with dating coach and author Nick Notas, who went from socially anxious and awkward with women to helping introverted men build confidence, flirt naturally, and connect authentically. They break down what flirting really looks like, what women respond to, why emotional self-awareness is attractive, and the subtle mistakes that cause men to lose women. Packed with practical insights and one simple dating hack most menoverlook, this conversation cuts through dating noise and gets real about modern attraction. 0:00 Introduction to Nick Notas, started off nerdy andhelping nerdy guys today3:49 Social anxious, jealous, needy4:28 How do men flirt or show interest6:39 How do you teach introverted men to flirt?9:09 Flirting is easier than being a lawyer, doctor, engineer!11:23 Do men want strong women?15:20 Women like him to have a therapist or a relationshipcoach?18:00 What do men like to hear about what women are doing19:57 Signal to women you’re proactive21:00 How can men express his feelings? 24:30 What are men’sinsecurities?25:35 Why do men lose women? 29:50 Dating hack:call her, not text her to death!31:20 How do successful men let her know he’s successfulwithout sounding braggy Nick is a dating andrelationship coach. For 18 years, he's helped thousands ofsmart men in 37 countries build genuine confidence andattract meaningful connections. http://www.nicknotas.comhttps://www.youtube.com/@nicknotashttps://www.instagram.com/nicknotas *AMAZON BESTSELLER* Get my book, ‘A Roadmap For Single Asian Women’ here:https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C9L4CT87?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_dp_FKWJGPCVXW3XG8D98EWBCall May forhelp: (310) 867-0851Join The BestAsian Matchmaker’s Database Here: https://www.twoasianmatchmakers.com/profileEmail: [email protected]: www.twoasianmatchmakers.comFacebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/TwoAsianMatchmakersInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/matchmakermayYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/twoasianmatchmakersTiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@asianmatchmaker88LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mayhui/ ABOUT THIS PODCAST: THE ASIANDATING PODCASTWhat does Matchmaker May Do?You know how high-net-worth men are accomplished in theircareers but too busy to date? They value time more than money, yet struggle tofind meaningful connection. What I do is learn who they want to attract, screenthe women for them, and make the introductions—so instead of wasting time, theymeet the right woman and fall in love.May Bugenhagen is a professional matchmaker, dating coach, and founder of TwoAsian Matchmakers, a boutique agency helping successful menfind meaningful relationships with Asian partners since 2009.Known for her warm, curious nature and love of love, May blends intuitionwith strategy to guide high-achieving singles toward genuine connection. Amember of the Matchmakers Alliance and GlobalLove Institute, she’s a respected voice in the industry and amentor to rising matchmakers.Her work has been featured in Cosmopolitan,Los Angeles Magazine, Thrillist,and the Huffington Post.
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