How to Get What You Want | Happiness | E521

You feel disrespected. Overlooked. Like no matter what you do, you can't get what you want. So you've tried getting tougher. You've tried getting nicer. And neither one works — for a reason. that changes today. By the end of this episode, you're going to know how to get what you want, even when the odds are against you. Today I'm talking with negotiation expert Attia Qureshi — a literal hostage negotiator who got dropped into cartel-controlled villages in Colombia and had to win over people who'd already decided they didn't trust her. If she can turn a room full of cartel-controlled farmers into her allies in a single day, you can handle the boss who overlooks you, the partner who shuts down, the in-law who pushes every button you've got. This is the conversation that changes how you walk into a room. She's going to teach you how. Today: You'll learn how to stop freezing when you feel powerless, get dead clear on what you actually want, and shift even your most hostile relationships with one small move almost nobody uses on purpose. In This Conversation: 02:50 — The type of betrayal that hightlights how power really works 14:00 — How to get what you want when the deck is stacked against you 16:00 — Walking into a hostile room — how to take your power back 28:40 — Why you freeze when you're disrespected, and how to immediately calm down 32:00 — The "I'm about to quit" mistake smart, talented people keep making (and how to stop!) 35:30 — How to stop seeing someone as the villain and finally get through 37:30 — The lemonade move: one gesture that resets your worst relationship 55:30 — Influence vs. manipulation: how to know you're doing it right Here's the truth: you don't have to choose between being walked over and being the bad guy. There's a third path, and it's a skill — which means you can learn it. And keep going with Attia's book Never Settle: Persuasion and Negotiation Skills to Get What You Want. If you're ready to feel respected and get what you want in your relationships and your career, let's do it. Start at growingself.com, by booking a free consultation. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month’s sponsors of the podcast Upwork — When you need specialized talent fast, Upwork gives you access to vetted professionals across 125+ categories, from marketing to web development to operations support. No long recruiting cycles. No guesswork. Just the right person, when you need them. Check it out at upwork.com — posting a job is free. Shopify — The all-in-one platform for building and growing your online business. Visit shopify.com/lhs to explore their tools and access exclusive listener discounts. OSEA — Amazing, clean, science-backed skincare made with the power of the sea. Use code LHS at oseamalibu.com for 10% off your first order. Quince — Quality products you’ll actually use that feel like luxury without the price tag. Get free shipping and 365-day returns at quince.com/lhs. LNutra Prolon — A science-backed, plant-based nutrition program that supports fat loss, metabolism, cellular rejuvenation, and overall longevity. Head to ProlonLife.com/LHS for 15% off your first order + a bonus gift.