How To Handle Hard Conversations With Real Curiosity, with Michael Ashford

Send us Fan Mail A tense pause. A comment you immediately regret. A disagreement that turns into a fight about the fact that you are fighting. That pattern is not a personal flaw, it is often a training problem. I sit down with Michael Ashford, executive communication coach, award-winning journalist, and author of *Can I Ask a Question?*, to unpack why so many of us were never taught real conflict communication skills, even though our relationships and mental health depend on them. We talk about the hidden habit that breaks conversations early: leading with certainty instead of curiosity. Michael shares an unforgettable story from his reporting days that shows how quickly assumptions can derail trust, then we zoom out into the bigger forces shaping our communication style. School rewards “right answers” and persuasive arguments, but it rarely teaches emotional intelligence, active listening, empathy, or how to hold space for someone you disagree with. We also explore why questioning your own beliefs can feel risky, especially when family systems, workplace culture, or political tribes treat disagreement like betrayal. You will leave with practical tools you can use the next time conflict shows up at home or at work, including two clarifying questions that slow the spiral and a simple closing framework: assume positive intent, set aside ego, and ask better questions because understanding is not the same as agreement. If you care about healthy relationships, leadership communication, and navigating difficult conversations with more honesty and less damage, this one is for you. Connect With the Guest Website: https://michaelashford.com Podcast: Rethinking Communication — https://michaelashford.com Book: Can I Ask A Question? on Amazon LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaeldashford/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michaeldashford/ Subscribe to Healthy Mind, Healthy Life, share the episode with someone who needs it, and leave a review so more people can find these conversations. #podmatch #healthymindbyavik #podhub.club #communication #conflictresolution #curiosity #leadershipcommunication #executivecoaching #difficultconversations #emotionalintelligence #mentalhealthpodcast #askandsee #caniaskaquestion #michaelashford #activelistening #relationships  Couples Tantra Programme Unlock Deeper Connection and Intimate Pleasure in Your Relationship. YouEx Get 50% off the first 6 months of YouEx.ai! Immunology Diagnostics 30% off of IMBXX. Code: Healthymind Get the test, insurance covers. Royal Oasis Psychotherapy Institute Free for life, and no code needed. Download now, and start changing your life today! Friending, Inc Offer: 15% off our coffee as stated above | Code: Podcast10 Find friends in real-life in a verified Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Support the show Want to Be a Guest on Healthy Mind, Healthy Life? 👉  DM me on PodMatch  💬 Want to come on the show? Be a Guest  🌐 Explore the full network  | 📨 Newsletter | 👥 LinkedIn Community This isn't self-help. It's self-honesty. 💼 Sponsor Our Show | 🎬 Check Our Services 📌 Disclaimer This episode is for educational and informational purposes only. Guest views are personal and do not represent the host or Healthy Mind by Avik™. The Network does not verify or endorse guest statements. Nothing here is medical, legal, financial, or professional advice, please consult a qualified professional. Engage critically. Third-party content referenced under fair use. Guests are responsible for their own statements. Concerns? Contact us | Full disclaimer. By listening, you accept this disclaimer in full.