How to Heal Avoidant Attachment (From Someone Who Actually Did It) with Alex Long

In this episode, I sit down with registered dietitian Alex Long to have an honest conversation about what it's really like to live with avoidant attachment & what it took for her to become more securely attached.Alex shares what relationships felt like in her body before healing, the fears that kept her emotionally distant, and why avoidantly attached people often care deeply but don't know how to stay close. We also talk about the turning points after her divorce that changed everything, how solo travel helped her build trust in herself, and why healing self-worth goes far beyond affirmations and positive thinking.We also discuss:❤️‍🩹 What avoidant attachment actually feels like beneath the surface❤️‍🩹 The hidden fears that drive emotional distance and withdrawal❤️‍🩹 Why avoidantly attached people often crave connection more than they admit❤️‍🩹 The patterns Alex had to stop repeating before real healing could begin❤️‍🩹 How learning to trust herself transformed the way she showed up in relationships❤️‍🩹 The practices that helped her tolerate intimacy instead of running from it❤️‍🩹 What healing self-worth actually looked like beyond affirmations and positive thinking❤️‍🩹 How becoming more securely attached changed the way she chooses relationships todayWhether you're avoidantly attached yourself or you're trying to better understand someone you love, this conversation offers an honest, compassionate look at what healing avoidant attachment can actually look like & why lasting change is possible.If anxiety or anxious attachment keeps showing up in your relationships, even when love is there, your body may still be living in the past. I am an anxious attachment specialist & trauma informed somatic coach who helps people heal their anxious attachment using somatic healing & nervous system regulation.I have 4 spots open for 1:1 somatic support for people who are ready to reduce their anxiety/anxious attachment patterns. Somatic work helps your nervous system release old survival patterns that were formed before you had words, patterns like fear of abandonment, constant scanning, or feeling like you have to hold everything together to stay loved.When your body feels safe, connection no longer feels like something you have to earn.Book your free discovery call here to see if we’re a good fit to work together: https://calendly.com/freedomwithvalerie/discovery-callConnect with Valerie on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/Connect with Alex on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/alex.undefined_/If you enjoyed this conversation, be sure to check out Alex's first appearance on the podcast: Healing your anxious attachment to your body, food, & Health: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2z1MjuuiaD9Lt3jcbdNlUm?si=yxB8RJNuTJiRP6NGSnGYlgListen to me on Alex's podcast - The truth about your attachment: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5zhG37lvxm9pfUicS4neDM?si=4hBTJwDbSlqPaL1sRxfRkA