How To Know You Found The One: Why You Just Know [Ep 132]

How to Know You Found the One: Why You Just KnowHow to know you found the one is the question everyone asks before getting married, and John and Echo break down what that feeling actually means. They tackle why clichés like "when you know, you know" and "it happens when you least expect it" are annoyingly true, and how full acceptance, comfort, and contrast help you recognize your person.From meeting on a dating app 2,000 miles apart with zero expectations to moving in together fast, John and Echo share their messy, real love story. They dig into why you need options to make a real choice, why finding the one is only 10% (the other 90% is building the relationship), how to tell toxicity from chemistry, and why your subconscious "tells" reveal what you actually feel about someone.In This EpisodeThe clichés are true — "when you know, you know" is frustrating but real, and you'll feel it differently than anything beforeYou need options and contrast to make a real choice; one-itis means you never actually choseHave zero expectations on dates — pressure makes you twist someone into being "the one" when they're notFinding the one is only 10% — the other 90% is the relationship you build, and you can absolutely screw up the right personWatch your subconscious tells — if small habits (like contacts left everywhere) actively turn you off, that's misalignment, not nitpickingDon't confuse toxicity for chemistry — anxious-avoidant patterns can feel like a pull, but that's the dysfunction drawing you inYou can't find the one if you're not living up to what you're looking for — work on yourself firstHonesty, full acceptance, and feeling like "one unit" through life's chaos are how you knowTimestamps0:00 — The Subconscious Tells That Reveal the Truth2:46 — Comfort, Familiarity, and the Signs You See in Hindsight5:00 — John's Perspective: Choosing Against All Odds8:36 — Dating With No Expectations12:13 — Full Acceptance and Moving in Together14:30 — Why You Need Options to Make a Real Choice17:55 — If You're Married, Make Them the One22:58 — You Can't Find the One Until You Work on Yourself27:44 — Being Open, Honest, and Becoming One Unit33:38 — Detecting When It's Not the One: Toxicity and Attraction38:37 — Synchronicities and Guideposts on the Right Path41:39 — You Can't Mess It Up: The Spiritual Side of Finding the One46:43 — Unconditional Love and Matching WeirdnessesConnect🎙 Full show notes & resources📺 YouTube📷 Instagram: @betterthanperfectpodcast📧 Subscribe for weekly relationship adviceAbout the ShowBetter Than Perfect is a relationship podcast that helps you navigate modern dating, marriage, and everything in between — with real talk and practical advice that actually works. New episodes every Friday.