How to Lead Yourself First: The CORE Framework for Intentional Living with Miki Feldman Simon

What if the most important leadership role you'll ever have isn't managing a team, but leading yourself? In this conversation, Laura Rotter sits down with Miki Feldman Simon—executive coach and author—who shares her journey to discovering her true calling: helping people live with intention, authenticity, and purpose.Miki's path wasn't linear. From fashion design to psychology to HR to operations to marketing, she explored diverse fields while developing a consistent through-line: curiosity about people and the ability to create psychological safety that gets others to open up. After moving from Israel to Australia to the United States, taking forced career breaks due to visa restrictions, and taking care of aging parents, Miki found herself asking the fundamental question that drives her work today: Who do you want to be?Her answer became the CORE framework—a four-step process detailed in her book Core Leadership. CORE stands for Clarify, Operationalize, Reflect and Evaluate. This isn't just a leadership model for executives—it's a framework for anyone who wants to stop being managed by other people's priorities and start showing up as the person they truly want to be.This episode is essential listening for anyone feeling pulled along by life rather than intentionally choosing it, for parents trying to model values for their children, for professionals wondering if their credit card statement reflects what they say matters most, and for anyone ready to ask: In this moment, who do I want to be?Key Takeaways💡 Leadership starts with leading yourself—it happens everywhere: You don't need a management title to be a leader. Leadership shows up in your kitchen, with your family, in how you respond to stress. If you're not intentional about leading yourself, you'll be managed by other people's priorities and habits, pulled along without direction.💡 Ask others about your strengths—you can't see them clearly yourself: Miki asked her teenage daughter "What are my strengths?" and received a life-changing answer: "You have simple solutions to complex situations." We dismiss compliments or assume everyone has our gifts. Ask at least three people who know you well what your strengths are—the answers will surprise and empower you.💡 Clarify who you want to BE, not just what you want to DO: We spend enormous energy on what we want to accomplish but rarely ask who we want to be. When your values, priorities, and vision of yourself are clear, decisions become easier—even painful ones—because you have a compass guiding you.💡 Your credit card statement reveals your true priorities: Say family is your priority? Check your calendar and bank statement. We rationalize that we'll "someday" focus on what matters, but operationalizing your values means your actions actually align with what you say is important.Resources: Core LeadershipThe 6 Types of Working Genius