How to Let Go of Unrealistic Expectations

We all have expectations and we all have ideas of what we want to accomplish in our lives. There’s nothing wrong with expecting things of ourselves, expecting things out of others, and setting healthy boundaries to respect those expectations.    However, sometimes our expectations go unchecked and they end up being too unrealistic. As a high achiever, Kamini knows she sets the bar way too high for herself, which can lead to unnecessary stress. She has to catch herself in the moment to re-center herself and the pressure she puts on herself because of these expectations.    What exactly is an expectation? It involves our needs, our wants, and our desires about the future. An expectation is a belief that something will happen in a certain way. You might actually have the most reasonable expectations possible, but things just don’t go as planned anyway. We all know life is messy and we simply can’t always predict how things will go.    So how do you distinguish the difference between realistic vs. unrealistic expectations? Some examples of some unrealistic expectations are: My partner should read my mind, my kids should always listen to me 100% of the time, my partner and I should never argue, at work I must be the best at all times, and so much more.    Unrealistic expectations also hold a lot of false beliefs. If you don’t work 100% at all times, it leads to this false belief that you’re not enough or you’re not a hard worker or that you’re a failure at life. If you have an argument with your partner, it can lead to false beliefs that you don’t have a strong relationship. If your kids don’t listen to you 100% of the time, it can lead to this false belief that you’re not a good or disciplined parent.    Continue Your Growth Journey: Kaminiwood.com