How To Make Love Last | Kyle Benson | #53

On today’s episode, the well known author, Kyle Benson joins Dr. Dave and Dr. Liz todiscuss the simple principles that make marriage last. Kyle discusses the profound effectiveness of Emotion Focused Therapy in the stabilization of relationships. In addition, he recognizes the benefits of using the research by John and Julie Gottman to maintain a healthy relationship.Timestamps:0:00 – Introduction: Who is Kyle Benson?3:00 - Combination of Gottman Method and Emotional Based Therapy8:36 – What is the longing for attachment?10:15 –Am I enough? Am I worthy of love and care?12:50 – Attachment Strategies/Styles16:03 – Emotion Focused Therapy20:15 – Conflict is fire22:43 – One sided partner effort26:10 – What is the key to a stronger marriage connection?27:25 – Kyle’s resources28:40 – TakeawaysAbout Kyle Benson:Kyle studies how partners in healthy relationships intentionally –talk to each other, have passionate sex, stay emotionally connected, and more – to uncover the tools and perspectives that make love last. His work has been featured in dozens of major media channels including The Gottman Institute, Business Insider, U.S. News, The Chicago Tribune, Huffington Post, and more.Insights:Liz: The healthy “We” starts with a healthy “Me.”Kyle: Underneath every criticism is a longing for attachment.Dave: It is not necessarily a poor partner but a poor pattern.Invites:   -    Join Kyle Benson’s email list to get free and easily acceptable tips to make marriage last.   -    Take 10 minutes to write down how you are going to change the unwanted patterns in your relationship.Kyles’s Links:https://www.kylebenson.net/FB @Kyle Benson: https://www.facebook.com/kylebenson.netVisit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:Strongermarriage.orgpodcast.strongermarriage.orgFacebook: StrongerMarriage.orgInstagram: @strongermarriagelifeTikTok: @strongermarriagelifeDr. Dave Schramm:https://drdaveschramm.comhttps://drdavespeaks.comFacebook:https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSUFacebook Marriage Group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579Facebook Parenting Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drdaveschramm/ Dr. Liz Hale:http://www.drlizhale.com/  Happy Hacks: 101 Science-Backed Ways to Boost Happiness, Reduce Stress, and Build a More Meaningful Life.Available now starting at 99¢ on Amazon and Dave's Book StoreWritten by Dr. Dave Schramm, this practical and uplifting new book offers simple, research-based strategies to help you build greater happiness, strengthen resilience, reduceThe opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission.Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways: Strongermarriage.org  Podcast.stongermarriage.orgYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StrongerMarriageLifeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelifeInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579Dr. Dave Schramm: http://drdaveschramm.comhttp://drdavespeaks.com Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com/