How to Move On After a Breakup

with Renée and Mikaila — Love Hacks PodcastThe episode focuses on overcoming a breakup and regaining control of your life.Key Insight: Moving on is a decision, not a feeling. Renée introduces the idea that you don't have to feel ready to start healing. Many people wait to feel completely okay before moving on, but Mikaila emphasizes that you just need to be stable enough to take a step.Grieving and healing go hand in hand. Both agree that healing begins while you're still hurting. You can't wait to be "fully healed" to start living again—the process happens simultaneously.The danger of obsessing over an ex. A significant part of the episode discusses how destructive it is to keep seeking answers, checking an ex's social media, or trying to get "closure." Mikaila advises unfollowing or blocking an ex on social media: every minute spent on their life is a minute not spent on yours.You are the only one who can heal yourself. While you can seek support from friends, family, or a therapist, the real work is yours to do. They compare it to a physical fracture: no one can heal it for you.Practical advice for the process. They suggest talking to friends, exercising, discovering new hobbies, traveling, going to therapy, or simply spending more time with family. The central idea: healing isn't just about removing someone from your life, but rebuilding it around yourself.Rebound relationships: a dangerous path. The hosts warn against rebound relationships. Jumping from one relationship to another only numbs the pain without resolving it, often leading to repeating the same patterns with the wrong people.Learning to be alone is essential. If you can't be with yourself, you can't know yourself. And if you don't know yourself, it's hard to find someone truly good for you.No contact: the value of silence. They propose "no contact" as a healing tool. If you encounter your ex in real life, silence is the best option—no angry calls, no pleading. In cases where children or business are involved, keep it minimal and professional.Self-love is a behavior, not a feeling. Renée sums it up well: real self-love is choosing yourself when it's hard. It's protecting your peace. It's setting boundaries—not for the other person, but for your own mental well-being.Episode closing. You don't have to stop missing them today or wake up tomorrow feeling completely healed. But you can make the decision to engage in your own healing—because moving on isn't a feeling, it's a series of choices.Would you like to explore any specific section further or do something else with the episode? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.