How to Regain Your Balance When You Can’t Get What You Want

How to find balance and equilibrium after the rug has been pulled out from under you? Like a teeter totter, what goes down, must come up. This episode explores three practices for finding your footing again after infidelity, betrayal, or any kind of disappointment. Top take-a-ways Find balance between grief and positivity. Grieving is a normal process that allows negativity to leave your body and keeps you healthy and happy for the long run. Although it can be uncomfortable, learning how to grieve is vital to our wellbeing. Counting your blessings reminds you that grief is not permanent and that there are many other parts of your life that are still going well. Alternate between taking control and letting it go. When we feel victimized, it’s healthy for us to take control of something and reestablish us as a powerful force in our own lives. But it’s also important to practice the art of letting it go, and learning to release the illusion of control. Understand the tendency to glorify or catastrophize what “might have been.” No situation is all good or all bad. When we don’t get what we want, we have a tendency to either glorify or catastrophize what we think it “should” have been. Remind yourself to be rational! Even if you had gotten what you wanted, it would have been neither all good or all bad. Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again. About Lora: Author, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle help women rebuild their identity and self-worth so they can find the courage to claim what’s possible on the other side of betrayal. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT